Day 4. Causing Humiliation: It is forbidden to talk negatively about someone’s appearance/ clothing even if it is obvious to all who see the person. If it’s so obvious, why am I not allowed to talk about it? Sick question! The Chofetz Chaim tells us, “put yourself in the persons shoes, how would you feel if you heard people talk about you in such a way?”

Day 5. Causing Humiliation: It is forbidden to talk negatively about someone’s family.

Day 6. Talking About Someone’s Actions/Traits: In the event that you see someone doing an aveira, it is forbidden to talk about it (even if it’s an aveira that you and most people aren’t careful with). Moreover, it is a mitzvah to judge them favorably. What should one think? • Either it was pikuach nefesh. • ⁠Or he wasn’t aware that he was doing an aveira. • ⁠Or he thought this mitzvah was a chumra (extra stringency) rather than chiyuv (obligation). • ⁠You can also assume the person did teshuva

Day 7. Causing Humiliation: Just as it is forbidden to reveal that someone did an aveira, so too it is forbidden to discuss a persons bad middos, such as a strong temper, a lazy nature, stinginess etc. may we be zoicheh to work on how we portray people in a manner which can make them feel better ❤️‍🩹.

Day 8. Talking About Someone’s Actions: To say that someone spoke Loshon Hara is Loshon Hara 🤯. It is also Loshon Hara to reveal that someone didn’t extend kindness.

Day 9. Causing Humiliation: Although it is permissible to voice your disapproval of a general behavior, if you mention it in connection with a person/group, or it will be obvious about whom you are speaking about, then it is forbidden. If you state someone else’s disapproval about a person/ group, it is also Loshon Hara.

Day 10. Causing Humiliation: It is forbidden to talk about someone’s past negative traits even though you are saying that the person changed for the better and does not have these traits anymore. Sometimes, you even mean to compliment the person, nevertheless it is forbidden. When is it permissible to reveal a persons negative actions? The Chofetz Chaim tells us that if we want to keep our children/students away from a bad influence then it would be allowed to talk about it. For Example: You tel

Day 11. Causing Humiliation: It is forbidden to talk negatively about a rav or his psak. In a sense it’s worse than just regular Loshon hara, why? The Chofetz Chaim explains that besides for the sin of degrading the rav, you are also causing him to lose his authority (and potentially his livelihood). As a result, people will not value his words and may disregard his psak. Thus, your words can cause countless people to sin. (BTW…even if you don’t mention which rav it is, it is still forbidden).

Day 12. Causing Humiliation: It is forbidden to talk negatively about Rebbeim or Teachers. (This can specifically happen at school functions). It is forbidden for a child to talk negatively about his teacher or to imitate the teacher in a negative manner. If you hear a child talking negatively about a Rebbe/ Teacher, you must stop him. Now you may say “I understand you’re feeling this way towards your teacher but if he hurt or bothered you personally or you think he did something wrong and

Day 13. Causing Humiliation: The Chofetz Chaim warns us that talking negatively about a speaker can have terrible ramifications. Besides for degrading the speaker, you are weakening the impact of a speech. Furthermore, as a result of your words, people will not be interested in hiring the speaker in the future. Example: You come home from a speech and someone asks you, “How was the speech?” (that question could be avak Loshon hara). It is forbidden to say the following statements: “It was much t

Day 14. Causing Shame: Talking about another yid in a manner which can cause him shame (even though it is not necessarily degrading) is Loshon Hara. For Example: “Did you hear the song he sang? It was so off tune”. Or, “Did you see him in that basketball game, he played so bad”. Why do these statements fall under Loshon Hara? Isn’t it socially acceptable that most people do not excel in certain areas? That is a beautiful question. The above statements are Loshon Hara because the person being s

Day 15🍎🍯 Causing shame: Sometimes a person is complemented, and you downplay the compliment. This is forbidden because it can cause shame to the person being spoken about. Example: “I don’t know why you are making such a big deal about him! He’s just a regular guy.” In the event that a person is chosen for an honorable position, it would be forbidden to express your disapproval.

We would like to personally thank everyone for such an incredible year! May you have an amazing rosh hashana and may you really connect to hashem and daven for this to be the best year ever! Remember, it’s not about asking for little, it’s about asking for much! May we be zoicha to continue this beautiful journey together and may we continue to get our tefillos accepted in the gates of Heaven❤️‍🩹.

Before we begin with the next Halacha, I hope everyone had a beautiful yuntif and really started the year off with a bang and got cleansed. With that….. Day 16. Causing Shame: It is forbidden to talk negatively about someone’s possessions or merchandise. This includes talking about businesses, services, and products. Example: “That restaurants food isn’t so good”, or “The clothing from that store doesn’t have good quality”. To say that a store is overpriced is also Loshon Hara. These things are

Wow, wow, wow, wow. This is too surreal. Being able to learn with every single person on this chat everyday is unbelievably unreal. We hit over the 1,000 member mark 🤯. It’s truly a bracha and it means so much to us that we are all in this together. Thank you everyone!! ❤️

Yes - Amen Nesanel !!!! And I am sure I speak on behalf of everyone here - A tremendous amount of gratitude/ Hakaros Hatov to you Nesanel and Avroham for not only creating this chat but for consistently posting the Halachos of Loshon Hara for all of us !! It is truly a life changer besides being a life saver - השומר פיו ולשונו שומר מצרת נפשו ( one who guards their mouth guards their life ) ! Wishing everyone a גמר חתימה טובה ! Looking fwd to 2000 Iyh !!

Day 17. Causing financial harm: It is forbidden to talk negatively about a book, newspaper, or publication written by a Torah observant Jew. It is also forbidden to talk about a Jewish production, film, Jewish singer. Why are these statements forbidden? Imagine- if you were the author, producer, or composer. How would you feel if someone spread negative information about your book, or song? Furthermore, such statements can discourage people from buying there products- thereby affecting the perso

Day 18. Causing Financial Harm: It is forbidden to talk negatively about a hall/caterer. Why is this forbidden? Great question, Because a Jewish simcha is so beautiful that it would be a shame to ruin it by speaking Loshon Hara if the food wasn’t so good. Now if one is asking about information because they may want to hire that specific caterer… (All rules of toeles must be met).

Day 20. Financial Harm or Shame: It is forbidden to talk negatively about food that was produced by a Jew. This might seem a little extreme. After all, we are talking about food, not people. However, picture how you would feel overhearing someone comment about you, “Oh her? She really doesn’t know how to cook!” People don’t realize that by degrading food, they can cause the caterer, cook, or bakery to lose their customers.

Day 22. Financial Harm or Shame: It is forbidden to talk negatively about a Jewish doctor. However, if someone asks you specific information about a doctor because they are interested in using that doctor for themselves or family, then all conditions of toeles must be met. in the event that all conditions are met, you should try to say the least negative information possible that will cause the person to seek another doctor. For Example - “I don’t think this doctor is for you… I would suggest go

Day 23. Financial harm / shame: It is forbidden to talk about the fact that someone is not doing well financially. Why is this forbidden? Because it can cause them harm in the following ways. • it can cause them to feel shame. • ⁠Financial Harm (People will not want to lend him money). • ⁠People might not want to be m’shadech with the family. It is also forbidden to reveal that a hired person has a weak nature. Why is this forbidden? Because it can cause the person to lose their job.

Day 24. Shame/ Humiliation: A smile, A reassuring nod, A warm wink. A hurt but beautiful heart can be touched, crushed spirits can be uplifted, broken lives and hearts can be amended. What a shame to misuse our facial expressions. As it’s written in Parshas Vayichi- “With one’s nose, one can kill man. Now what does that mean? Great question. Just by turning up one’s nose, one can cause harm. If the person is present he can suffer Humiliation. Even if not present, by turning up one’s nose at th

Day 25. Loshon Hara is forbidden even when: Talking Loshon Hara is forbidden even if you would say it in the presence of the person you are speaking about. Example: “You often tell your brother that he’s stingy and he doesn’t even mind.” Nevertheless it is forbidden to tell your friend, “you know my brother is stingy.” Everyone should have a wonderful shabbos and a beautiful first days of chag 🍋 .

Day 26. Loshon Hara Is Forbidden….: Even if you’re negative speech will not cause harm it is still forbidden. For Example: You tell your friend, “Why do you shop in that grocery? It’s so overpriced.” Even if your friend still shops there and they don’t lose any business it is still Loshon Hara.

Day 27. 🍋 Loshon Hara Is Forbidden Even When…..: Even if you are not talking out of hatred, (you are even talking about a close friend or relative) and you mean it as a joke, if it implies something negative about the person then it is forbidden. The Chofetz Chaim adds: “Look at what a great aveira Loshon Hara is! Even if you love the person you are talking about and you mean it as a joke it is nevertheless forbidden”. 😟

Day 28. 🍋 Loshon Hara is forbidden even when: One must be very cautious not to fall into the trap of Loshon Hara when comparing people or groups. Even though your intention might be to compliment someone, if something negative is implied about someone else it is forbidden. Example - “She’s the only normal girl in that class”. Even though you are giving that girl a compliment, you are still implying something negative about other people.

Day 29. 🍋 Loshon hara is forbidden even when: Referring to someone by an extreme description is another form of Loshon hara. Words like “very”, “too”, and “so” can change an innocent statement into a dangerous one. For example: “my sister is more to the quiet side.” That is ok “my sister is too quiet” that would be assur. Loshon hara is also forbidden even if you include yourself in the loshon hara. Like “all of us siblings are a bit lazy”.

Day 30 🍋. Loshon Hara Is Forbidden Even When…..: A respected person pressures you to speak. Although, parents must be respected…… if they ask a question to which the answer is Loshon Hara, you may not answer 🫢🤯. In the event that your boss may pressure you to reveal Loshon Hara, you may not obey him even if you are at risk of losing your job 🤯. Even if you speak about something that the person being spoken to already knew…. It is forbidden. Have an amazing second days of yom tov!

Day 31. Double Meaning: It is forbidden to relay a comment that can be interpreted in either a positive or negative way about someone. For Example: “My neighbor is quite funny.” This can be interpreted in a positive manner… he has a sense of humor. However, it can also be interpreted negatively… he is a little weird. There are two instances when it would be allowed to relay a double meaning statement: - If you say it in such a way that if the person being spoken about were present when you relay

Day 32. Descriptions: What could be considered loshon hara when talking about one person can actually be a compliment to someone else. Example: You say “Reuven gave $10 to a collector”, if Reuven is a low income provider then it would be considered a compliment but if he is a rich person and the collector specifically came to his house for a donation then the statement comes across negatively and is considered loshon hara. Loshon hara is also forbidden In a case where you think it’s ok to talk a

Today is the Yahrtzeit of Reb Levi Yitzchok of Berditchev — the holy Barditchever, famous for many reasons but specifically for his love of yidden. There’s a famous story that once, on Shabbos, the Barditchever saw a Yid smoking. He walked over to him and asked gently, “Maybe you don’t realize that today is Shabbos?” The Yid answered, “I know it’s Shabbos.” The Barditchever asked, “Maybe there’s some health reason, and you’re allowed to smoke?” “No,” the Yid said. He tried one more time: “Maybe

Day 33. Well Known Negative Information: Even if negative history about someone is well known, it is still forbidden to talk about it. Another thing, Even if you repeat Loshon Hara which was already said by other people the aveira is greater. Why, isn’t it already known by others? Great question. It is because the more people repeat the Loshon Hara, the more readily the listeners will believe it.

Day 34. Loshon hara with No name: It is permissible to talk negatively about someone without mentioning a name, only if you are sure that the person you are talking to won’t figure out who it is (even if they might find out in later years) However, it is still not preferable to do. When referring to a small group it is best to avoid talking loshon hara about a member of the group even without mentioning the name since the listener may find out who it is. Example: “one of my sisters is very sting

Day 35. Avak Loshon Hara/Hinting Negatively About Someone: Even in the event where you don’t explicitly speak Loshon Hara and you just hint at something negative, it is forbidden. For Example: Someone says, “I don’t even wanna tell you what he did”, that is forbidden. To answer a question by replying, “I can’t tell you, it’s Loshon Hara” falls under the category of Avak Loshon Hara. But I didn’t tell him anything, so why would it be Loshon Hara? It is because your answer is automatically implyin

Day 36. Avak Loshon Hara/ Excessive Praise: It is forbidden to praise a person in front of anyone who doesn’t like him. Why? I’m saying good things! Because the listener may contradict you and start downplaying everything you said. It is also forbidden to praise someone in an extreme manner even if it’s not said in front of people who don’t like him. Why? Because some people when they hear too much praise about someone, they automatically try to find faults and talk about it. The exception to th

Day 37. Avak Loshon Hara: It is forbidden to praise someone in a way that can cause him financial harm. For Example: Your neighbor lent you a large sum of money, It is forbidden to announce this publicly. Isn’t it so great that my neighbor is helping me out? Why would it be forbidden? It is because this may cause a lot of people to flock your neighbors door in the hope of being the recipient of his generosity. However, if someone asks you specifically, “Do you know who would lend me money?” Th

Day 38. Preventing loshon hara: It is best to avoid questions when the answer can involve loshon hara. (Unless you know that the person whom you are asking the question is very careful with Shmiras halashon and therefore his answer won’t contain any loshon hara.) For example: “do you like your teachers? Or “is he good at ball?” Or “how was that restaurant? Do they make good food? If information must be investigated for a shiduch, it is best to ask a rav what and how to do.

Day 39. Is It Loshon Hara? If we follow the advice of the Ramban, we will be saved from the dangerous aveira of Loshon Hara. “Contemplate your words before you utter them”, by doing so you will be spared from sinning”. What should you contemplate? Great question, let’s get into it. - Do my words have potential to cause harm to another yid? - Will the person I am talking about feel embarrassed if he knew I was talking about him in such a manner? If the answer to any of these questions is yes th

Day 40. Repeating A Secret: If someone tells you a secret and tells you not to repeat it, it is forbidden to repeat it. (Even if it doesn’t include loshon hara). Even if a person doesn’t tell you explicitly “do not repeat what i told you”, but it is obvious that the information is private, then it is forbidden to repeat it.

Day 41. Repeating A Secret: When someone reveals private information to a group of 3 or more individuals and says specifically, “don’t pass it further”, it is forbidden to spread. However, if a person doesn’t specify in front of 3 then it would be permissible to pass it further. (Obviously this is if there’s no loshon hara involved).

Day 42. Revealing confidential information: You are part of a school meeting that is voting if a teacher should be fired or not. The outcome of the vote is that she should be fired. The Halacha is that you are not allowed to tell the teacher who voted against her. It is even forbidden to tell her “I voted in your favor”. Why? Because by process of elimination, she might figure out who voted against her, thus ill feelings will emerge.

Day 43. About whom is it forbidden to speak loshon hara: It is forbidden to speak Loshon Hara about any Jew regardless of their age, relation, or level of Torah knowledge. Therefore it is forbidden to talk negatively about……… Any Frum Member In Klal Yisroel: All yidden are deserving of our respect even if we disapprove of their lifestyles or cultures* 🫂.

Day 44. “A Yid Is Like the Torah” Reb Nachman says something incredible: a way to help yourself develop more love for Torah and more diligence in learning Torah is by not speaking badly about any Yid. Because every Yid is compared to a letter in the Torah. Just like there are 600,000 letters in the Torah, so too, there are 600,000 neshamos. Every Yid is a letter… And when you see a lack in a Yid, that means you’ll also see a lack in the Torah. But when we try to work on finding only good in othe

Day 45. “The Satmar Rebbe Story”: During the war, Poland was one of the first countries to be overcome by the Nazis, there were some yidden that managed to escape to Hungary and other countries that were not yet overcome. In Hungary the Satmar Rebbe zt”l selflessly sustained these refugees with shelter, food and morale support. Once, a chassid approached the Satmar Rebbe and informed him “I saw some of those yidden that you took in not keeping Shabbos!” The Rebbe was unmoved. He claimed, “these

Day 46. Children: An area of Loshon Hara in which people are not aware of the Halacha is with children, people think there is free range when talking about them. This is not true. Loshon hara is forbidden even by children! However, Behavior which is considered age appropriate for that age is permissible to say. Example: “The 2 year old next door throws tantrums all the time” or, “my 5 and 6 year old cousins keep on fighting”. Such statements would be permissible, However, if as a result of discu

Day 47. Family Members: Some people try to be cautious when talking about others but when it comes to family members, they think they can say whatever they want. This is very tricky and a grave mistake. By degrading one’s own family, they can cause untold harm to the people they love most. It is forbidden to talk Loshon Hara about and to family members. This includes parents, spouses, in-laws, siblings, and one’s own children.

Day 48. Age Appropriate: Behavior which is not considered appropriate for a child that age is loshon hara and forbidden to relay. However, if you need to ask advice on how to deal with a child, then it is permitted. Nevertheless, one should say only negative information that is necessary to relate and only to a person who can offer advice. Children who are over bar/bas mitzvah fall under the category of adults, therefore talking about a teenagers negative behavior (even if it is age appropriate)

The Story of the Feather Pillow 🪶: In a small town in Eastern Europe lived a goodhearted man who had one bad habit: he loved gossiping. He would share stories about other people, often adding details to make them more interesting. He figured that as long as the stories were true, what was the harm? One day, he spread a rumor about a fellow businessman. The story traveled throughout the town until it reached the man himself, damaging his reputation. Heartbroken, he went to the rabbi for help. Th

Day 49. Family: Some people try to be cautious when talking about others yet when it comes to family they think they can say anything. This is a grave misconception. By degrading one’s own family they can cause untold harm to the people they love most. It is forbidden to talk loshon hara about family members even if it’s to family members.

Day 50. Family: Talking about one’s parents in a negative light is Loshon hara. It is also forbidden to talk Loshon hara about one’s siblings (even if it’s to parents or other siblings). It is forbidden even if the information is well known in the family. It is also forbidden to talk Loshon hara about one’s own children.🤯 May we be zoicha to continue loving our family and not speak in a negative light towards them.

Day 51. Just as it is forbidden to talk Loshon hara about a yid who is alive. So too, it is forbidden to talk about a yid who is no longer alive.

Day 52. Groups: Not only is it forbidden to speak negatively about a single person, but even against a group of people! (Even without mentioning anyone in the groups name) And it's even considered worse then regular loshon hara!😮 Why? because it's like you spoke about everyone individually.

Day 53. About Whom Is It Forbidden: When it comes to a machlokes, It is still forbidden to talk negatively about either side. One should not make a general negative statement about any person involved in the machlokes.

Day 54. To Whom Is It Forbidden: It is forbidden to talk loshon hara even if it’s to a non-jew. The danger of talking to a non-Jew is much worse than talking to a yid. Why? I agree, it sounds weird. It’s because we have the mitzvah of being Dan L’kaf Zchus and not believing loshon hara. However, a non-Jew will automatically believe your words as fact, thereby causing untold harm.

Day 55. Emotionally hurt: If one is emotionally hurt, then he / she may share their feelings with a spouse or friend. However, there are two rules that must be met. - if possible try not to reveal the name of the person who hurt you. - try to only tell one person about it. - the person to whom you choose to unburn yourself to, should be someone who is careful in hilchos shmiras halashon.

Day 56. Children: If you hear your child speaking Loshon hara you must stop him. Of course, the best chinuch is by example. When children see there parents avoiding Loshon hara they will automatically do the same.

Day 57. The chofetz Chaim tells us that our mouth is one of the most important vessels in serving hashem since most mitzvos are performed through speech, such as learning, davening, brachos, etc. When our mouths are clean they aren't just regular vessels...they become very holy vessels equal in the holiness to the vessels of the beis hamikdash. And then, our learning and tefilah becomes infused with a greater power. Through shmiras halashon, we can be sure that hashem will answer all of our tfil