Shemirat Halashon Part 56 - Refusing A Favor

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Good morning, everybody. Today is the 56th segment of the Think Before You Speak series with a few stories may not the last one of clarity. L'ilui nishmat ha Hafetz Chaim zechut tzadik l'ivracha. L'ilui nishmat Luza Elizabeth Henriette and her children that passed in the fire. Ruach Hashem t'nichem b'gan Eden. These halachot are also a great zechut dedicated for our b'nei chavura and klal Yisrael. And these halachot should be a great yeshua and zechut for Shmerel Ma'ayan and hatzlacha gdola for Chaim David ben Chaya Sarah. These halachot are titled today Refusing a favor. Now, has it happened to you over the years that you were in the position that you really needed a favor and the people that were able to deliver it just didn't come through? And it upset you like they were able to do it and why were they like that? And you get so upset that you want to start letting people know your frustration about people who you thought were a friend or a neighbor. An example, if you take that story where, you know, you waited years till finally your first son bar mitzvah and here is the big Shabbat bar mitzvah and he's been preparing for months and months to read and you just get notice that your family members agreed to come in to stay by you for Shabbat including your in-laws, including your parents and now you have to put up people in all

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1. 0:00Good morning, everybody. Today is the 56th segment of the Think Before You Speak series with…
2. 0:31for Shmerel Ma'ayan and hatzlacha gdola for Chaim David ben Chaya Sarah. These halachot are titled…
3. 1:01letting people know your frustration about people who you thought were a friend or a neighbor.…
4. 1:31different houses. You need help from the neighbors. So, you start asking around. Um you know…
5. 2:36Or uh "No, we decided that uh we're not having guests over anymore because we once…
6. 3:07They're not going to do anything to the house. And you're talking about mature people, parents,…
7. 3:38for absolutely very weak reasons, they just don't want to do it. Are you allowed to…
8. 4:40more of the detail, you start to find out that there's generally a lot more to…
9. 5:11come through for you, it's not only lashon hara. There's a second aveira involved as well.…
10. 5:42that you know that's close with the people, you were allowed to say something to them…

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