Shidduch Secrets Book chapter 1: Importance of a Dating Mentor

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The opening of this shiur, in Dr. Jack Cohen’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Hi everyone, it's Rabbi Dr. Jacko and dating coach. Today I'm going to ask the question, why do I need a dating coach? We're discussing a book called Shirah Secrets, a great book on dating. And the author says there that after years of helping people date, there's one thing she's learned. People would much rather do things their own way than listen to guidance. That's just human nature. She goes on to explain that people often resist advice about dating, even when the advice would help them, because dating is emotional, personal, and filled with filled with >> pressure. Then she gives a powerful comparison. She says that discussing how to date is like telling a child that candy is bad for you. The child doesn't want to hear that. Not because it's untrue, but because it challenges what feels good in the moment. And many people approach dating the same way. They don't want guidance. They want reassurance. The author then says something profound. She writes that we have a heartbreaking number of singles in our communities who have no understanding of what kind of

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1. 0:00Hi everyone, it's Rabbi Dr. Jacko and dating coach. Today I'm going to ask the question,…
2. 0:30filled with >> pressure. Then she gives a powerful comparison. She says that discussing how to…
3. 1:00have no understanding of what kind of marriage partner that they should be looking for, nor…
4. 1:31example. I had a client went on a date and got feedback that he came across…
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