When A Child Intermarries

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Yussie Zakutinsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

I remember when they walked in I wouldn't call it a Ruckus but there was maybe Whispers And like a little bit of drama clearly that they had history together I was in like fourth or fifth grade I was a fairly young kid but I remember overhearing it and what I overheard was that this cousin when she came in there was like a little bit of tumult because in my Bubby's lifetime when this member of my extended family got married my bubby made a very pointed decision not to attend her wedding and that decision was because she had intermarried now I was a young kid and anytime you're a young kid and you hear about you know family drama and there was just some disagreement or some family secret it's always like with a little bit of excitement or like you feel like you're being initiated into some secret society or Club but I remember at the time thinking of my bubby my Bubby was not the most educated woman but she had this Inner Essence of being a Bubby she was the kind of person who made a concerted effort always to observe Shabbos to some degree she didn't know all of the laws but the importance of having kiddish in the home of lighting Shabbos candles she was somebody who drove an hour to The Price Chopper in Albany which was around an hour 45 minute drive or so running a kosher home was definitely something that she took great pride in and one thing that she held near and dear was having a family where her children married Jewish and the importance of marrying Jewish and for her having a member even of her extended family even with as little education as she had the notion of somebody marrying out was so anathema to her that she was unwilling

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2. 6:54is what they did if somebody intermarried both of which whether it was a child who…
3. 13:18of how we hold on to the Jewish identity within our family and last year after…
4. 19:29just like finally got the I don't want to say confidence it wasn't confidence but like…
5. 25:45do this like you're breaking your family apart so yes again from there on there were…
6. 32:02you prove not prevent it but how do your kid is in a relationship if you're…
7. 37:42point and I think things that I question now and part of this religious Awakening you…
8. 44:05Cuppa and have Jewish children is something that you really can't express unless you really held…
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10. 56:55sent her to camp we did everything but somehow the spiritualness of Judaism the comfort that…

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