How to Properly Research People For Marriage

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The opening of this shiur, in Dr. Jack Cohen’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

welcome everyone to the class on dating and Shalom buys I'd like to focus tonight on a topic of gathering the necessary information to determine if the person you are dating is someone that's suitable for you you may recall that I spoke out recently that I was interviewed on a radio show which had many thousands of listeners and the topic of discussion was broken engagements and quick divorces that brought out of the woodwork many individuals reached out to me and have been seeing me recently to heal out from broken engagements and quick divorces broken engagements and quick divorces most recently some very bizarre cases have come to my attention just just today I dealt with an individual who was divorced to a woman that was her second marriage and in her family there were eight divorces I had another individual one who recently came to see me who was involved in a marriage but it was never consummated because three years there was there were private issues and it's been a whole gamut of this kind of stuff so I've asked myself what's going on here what's creating all this stuff and I believe that the the biggest problem I believe that the the biggest problem here the hurdle that we have to face is people are just jumping into marriages without doing the due diligence to determine who the person is who they are do they work do they have family are they who they are are they authentic are they real and you have to really do your homework today because we live in a world where people can be very deceptive you can go online and you can decide to become whatever you want to become and we have unfortunately these situations with Jase wipe and saw you at Sinai well you can make up any fictitious character if we

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1. 0:00welcome everyone to the class on dating and Shalom buys I'd like to focus tonight on…
2. 5:30scenario motivation rationale it's imperative to do the research before you send your child or yourself…
3. 10:50be best to ask a close friend of the family to make the phone calls and…
4. 15:55want to speak bad language what we call Lausanne Hara so watch how the rabbi answers…
5. 21:02but their goals similar to the goals of your son or daughter or your other life…
6. 26:05tell you it's what they don't say if the other person at the other end of…
7. 31:07see everyone doing that but you never know maybe he/she should just meet him and find…
8. 36:12joy there were they revenge on Hitler because my parents were Holocaust survivors my mother was…
9. 41:19the holidays together Rosh Hashanah Pesach and Sakura's shavasan Hanukkah my mother would fly in and…
10. 46:28us this was the first time we would not be staying with our mother even though…

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