Estrangement and Reconciliation: Teshuva for Our Relationships [Teshuva 5/5]

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Yussie Zakutinsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

use like Torah to go it was an eye-opening article it is called from ghosts to ancestors the psychoanalytic vision of Hans Lowell I've never heard of Han Lowell before the Articles written by somebody named Stephen Mitchell and it is a fascinating article by the way that we relate to our own past each one of us has a past we have parents we have grandparents we have great grandparents we have people who brought us who loved us support us into this world than a part of having a past is also the pain of the past maybe a Grimace that you got from a parent from an older sibling a question that was maybe asked innocently but struck you in a way that hurt you in some way or made you feel a little alienated and he has this remarkable idea in these two models in which we relate to the past these are the words of Hans Lowell which I found absolutely eye-opening those who know ghosts tell us that they long to be released from their ghost life and led to rest as ancestors as ancestors they live forth in the present generation while as ghosts they are compelled to haunt the present generation with their Shadow life ghosts of the unconscious imprisoned by defenses but haunting the patient in the dark of his defenses and symptoms are allowed to taste blood are let loose in the daylight of analysis the ghosts of the unconscious are laid and led to rest as ancestors whose power is taken over over and transformed into the newer intensity of present life I

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6. 32:55different ways people become estranged today sure that weren't true before you know I tell parents…
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