How to be a good friend // Rabbi Dovid Gottlieb // A guest speaker at Bais Shlomo

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dovid Gottlieb’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

got it Rabbi we've been waiting for you with bed breath we're ready to go wonderful this time I'm already situated in the Yesa so I don't have to struggle in and out of the cab a good driver so today's topic is how to be a good friend now I want to start with two now I want to start with two observations one is obvious and one is not so obvious and then I want to start to talk in general about friendship um let's say it'ss going down there let's say it's 1:30 a.m. I get a frantic knock on the door my friend is standing there he says to me I need a bottle of chin I need it now okay he's my friend I know he has a now okay he's my friend I know he has a problem he has an alcohol problem should I as a friend give him what he wants there's a strong reason to say no because what he wants isn't good for him if I really care about him then what I ought to do is what's good for him whether yeah he wants or not so to be a good friend means to want the best for your friend to want the the best for your friend to want the best for his life and to make your your evaluation on that basis now here's a second observation you probably have all had the experience of seeing someone do something and thinking to yourself if only he knew how bad he looks when he does that he would never do it he's really shooting himself in the

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1. 0:05got it Rabbi we've been waiting for you with bed breath we're ready to go wonderful…
2. 5:14another person and you want to share your lives to what ex extent that's possible and…
3. 10:26is this you love the other person you want the best of the other person do…
4. 16:09it easier for you to to also share uh share something with the other person if…
5. 21:15is not easy is not obvious and here's something which you could discuss with others in…
6. 26:56you know not fulltime but thinking about it working on it I'm halfway through I'm I'm…
7. 32:04trace it forward so to connect the dots for the other person without saying anything just…
8. 37:20friends so Rashi has two one of rash's is very outsid is a very daring shot…
9. 43:02why put in my way example some of sh so he analyzed his own past and…
10. 48:11I hear the signal and he took it okay when he came to be 12 years…

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