Episode 14: What Triggers Us and How To Change That!

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The opening of this shiur, in Charlie Harary’s own words— taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

everybody and welcome to the series mine hacks to actually reach your goals the series was designed to be about 8-10 minutes a day over the period of a period of time a few weeks to literally go through one of the Practical steps that we need to take to take our lives and where we are to where we gotta be thanks for joining us and uh let's get started hey everybody Welcome Back episode 14. so we've been talking about building the right habit Q routine reward Q routine reward Circle round and round Tighter and Tighter the circle goes so remember when we spoke about this idea of changing your life right and being able to manipulate the computer properly cold your brain we spoke about how when your in your mind if you will or when you the essential you right is about to do something it goes to the computer called your brain and if it has a connection it'll do it right if you know that that thing is called the cop it'll immediately say cup it's not going to find seven languages if it knows that when I feel stress I should you know reach for the cabin it will reach the cabinet if it knows that when I feel threatened I'm going to verbally lash back I'll just lash back right so when you are encountering something your brain's looking and going does that look familiar with patterns yes oh I know how to do this zip zip code you know connection right that's where a lot of your bad habits come from anybody here you know bite your nails well why do you bite your nails for you could be an adult and the answer is because you're stressed and when you're little you bit your nails and that created a really good connection that the pain of the cuticle

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1. 0:00everybody and welcome to the series mine hacks to actually reach your goals the series was…
2. 0:30round and round Tighter and Tighter the circle goes so remember when we spoke about this…
3. 1:33provided some level of mental relief and that just stuck your whole life so when you…
4. 2:38what you could do is you can start to limit the old behaviors right Judaism is…
5. 3:08build new Pathways you have to also take the old ones and start to change them…
6. 4:14when I'm in the car walking into the office I need to create a pre-cue of…
7. 5:51you do them and you try to discover you do the same exercise but now or…
8. 6:54right and and start to understand and take a minute at the end of your day…
9. 7:56tell you stories upon stories of people like this someone was took upon themselves to never…
10. 8:58what what got him started what got him going that whole beginning of it he just…

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