Daily Boost Ep.97: The Unhappiness Trap

What’s said in this shiur

The opening of this shiur, in Charlie Harary’s own words— taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

hey good morning everybody hope everybody's doing well welcome to the day excited to be back with you again i hope and pray that you guys are getting from this i know i am just the opportunity to be together is huge for me so thank you so much for tuning in we've been talking a lot about happiness and the reason why we're doing this slowly and not quickly is because life is like a cup of coffee it is meant to be sipped not gulped sipped not gulped and when you do when you get into topics that have the risk of being gulped there's a risk of us just digesting it quickly and not really getting into ourselves happiness is one of those it makes sense it's very difficult so we gotta like really spend the time and understand it from all the different angles so that by the time we're done together which will never be fully done which will never be fully done at least time we spend together it will become almost intuitive to us i hope yesterday we discussed this idea that materialism and the pursuit of a materialistic accomplishment is could be a big trap for our happiness now the pursuit of meaningful goals is exactly one of the ways you become happy and we'll get there but what ends up happening is we begin our lives with this sense we begin our lives with this sense of this innate happiness and for many of us it gets replaced with a striving for something objective right you're going for something you're going for a grade or you're going for a victory or you're going for an acceptance letter or you're going for social acceptance or if there's something in our world that we want and we either are convinced without not saying this takes place deliberately

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1. 0:00hey good morning everybody hope everybody's doing well welcome to the day excited to be back…
2. 2:05saying this takes place deliberately we're convinced by others or we convince ourselves that if i…
3. 4:08for long periods of time because you're striving towards something bigger and so what happens is…
4. 6:12it's just how we bought into the way the world works and we don't even know…
5. 8:16if you remember earlier we spoke about the self-determination theory remember one of those is significance…
6. 10:21people think let me win the lottery life will be good most people doing the lotteries…
7. 12:53discovery has been repeatedly born out of out by rigorous research in psychology and neuroscience management…
8. 14:55and more and faster than the other groups they did the study on children and with…
9. 16:58it's like you know your isaac you know it's like you're really smiling and what they…
10. 19:00um i'm sure that your smile was always and is always real but thanks for that…

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