The MOST IMPORTANT Chinuch advice!! (91008)

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] The most important advice ever for parents and for teachers said that the outcome of children is 100% 100% in God's hands. It has nothing to do with us. So why do we have to do anything? The answer is we have to try. So let's talk about with money. We'll apply it to parenting and I think we could really resolve a lot of problems. When it comes to money, we know two guys can go to work. One guy can work half the amount and make triple, right? Cuz what he's going to get is decreed by Hashem. But if you're supposed to get money and you just don't work, you're not going to get it. If you do your ishadas, you'll get what God wanted. If you do half of your, you'll get, I guess, half of what Hashem wanted. So, we have to dodadas. But it's not tied into the result. Some people work so hard and they just lose money and they get a bad investment and they lose more than than somebody else who's working less hard. So we have a oftas to try to make money. But we all know and believe with firm amuna that Hashem decides how much everybody's going to make. Some people make a lot of money and then they have a terrible loss. There was no insurance and this happened and that happened. Hashem is in charge of everything. But we have to do aadas. Is that clear? Can I hear it aloud? [Music] Okay. So now, Hashem gives us a kid. Okay. With each kid says 100% of the way this kid turns out is up to Hashem. But we have we have to try to raise them properly. What is trying to raise a kid properly? So let's go back to histadlas for parnasa. Does stealing count as histadlas? No.

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1. 0:00[Music] The most important advice ever for parents and for teachers said that the outcome of…
2. 2:08Tough crowd. You're like, "No." Now you tell me, right? Why doesn't stealing count as aadas?…
3. 4:25Now, we're humans. I understand. So, we get confused. I get it. But we don't even…
4. 7:12response that is not correct. You're actually instead of teaching them by example how I can…
5. 9:15adult, which is what you're trying to get to. You're not trying to get them to…
6. 11:58that he left whatever. And he he held his hands and he said, "Hashem wants you…
7. 14:06said I said first of all it's so interesting number one where's his dashra that says…
8. 16:18they really they bomb her, the father, the mother, hugs and and gifts and love. Someone…
9. 18:54have that's that. Now, we have a little bit of to do. Let's not overdo it.…
10. 20:58Jewish therapist. It's like everybody basically when you're born it's like here's a team. Everybody needs…

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