Rabbi Shimon Russell (Ramat Bet Shemesh 07-22-19)

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

thank you very much for the introduction as far as I know Scotland did not yet leave Great Britain so Landsman we are I want to thank her Bianca for organizing this whole thing thank you very much he was extremely persistent and getting me to come here and I do appreciate it and her Kiva for hosting the the evening so we have a lot to cover and by way of introduction to me it seems we're living in exceptionally challenging times you see on many different levels contradictory messages given to parents through the print media and speakers I try to avoid that pitfall myself but what you notice is it's like a ping-pong match for a while everyone's talking about unconditional love love your kids hug your kids look away ignore everything just love them everything will be fine of course there's always blowback and then you get a few months in the the mesh buffers and the Army's informing us that no we need firm discipline we need rules and structure and whatever happened and later lament the old days when kids listened and we're all told off for being so permissive and instructed to be strong then of course it switches three months later and this seems to go backwards and forwards part of the problem is not defining who we're talking about but I think there's a broader issue of what exactly are we doing we are living in different circumstances and times than was ever ever existed historically with unique

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1. 0:01thank you very much for the introduction as far as I know Scotland did not yet…
2. 6:39that you are unconditionally loved that's nurture doesn't matter what they do that means for example…
3. 12:57the opportunity you really have to set them up to be able to accept the limit…
4. 19:15conservative figure given that fact for us as parents not that fact alone for us as…
5. 25:46because I don't know what's gonna happen next a nervous tension of fear unknown undefined something…
6. 32:21the nature of the world was such that children gave respect to older people with the…
7. 38:53know that'd be more convenient but the fantasy do you understand the combination of false expectations…
8. 45:24where kids feel as close to our Kadesh bottle when they graduate as they did in…
9. 51:51if 20% of children get sexually abused then every parent in this day and age is…
10. 58:13there another option but what you can't do is make this like deer in the headlights…

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