DEEP TP: How to save your DYSFUNCTIONAL child (91076)

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] Okay. So, your question is a very very deep deep question. What could you do when your child is doing something that's so dysfunctional and so terrible, so horrible and uh so dangerous. Now, it would be great if we can just go ahead and you could tell him, "Listen, I just wanted you to know this is so dangerous." and he'll say, "What? This is dangerous? Oh my gosh. Wow. Thank you for telling me." And he stops. If you yell at him, you scream at him, "What are you crazy? What are you doing? You're risking your life. You're throwing away your life." And that works. Wonderful. Should do that. The problem that we have is that when someone is so broken, they are the ones that become vulnerable for people to take advantage of them, for them to believe things that they know is not true. They know that let's say a life of selling drugs is not a good life. Not a it's not a a healthy life. It's a horrible life and you can end up in jail and you can end up and these are not criminals. These are our beautiful souls that were cute and smart and good and had such a breakdown that they're now open to anything. So when someone's driving down the street the wrong way and you say, "Hey, hey, hey, careful." They say, "What?" "No, this is a one-way street. You're going the wrong way. It's not two-way street. And they say, "Oh, thank you." And they make a U-turn and they go, "Very good." But once they say, "No, no, I know. Leave me alone. What do we do now?" So, some people say, "You got to stop him. Jump in front of the car, grab him,

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1. 0:00[Music] Okay. So, your question is a very very deep deep question. What could you do…
2. 2:36this person is so sick they have to hit rock bottom Then a lot of them…
3. 5:17force or the or the connection this it's a little this it's a little that it's…
4. 8:25What they do with their pain, what's the difference? If you remove this thing, they'll they'll…
5. 11:02self-esteem he wouldn't do this and when he has a higher self-esteem, he will get out…
6. 14:10going, where she's going. She didn't share the information and the other way she's still going…
7. 16:50nishmas even like when something good happens, they say something bad happens. the father wasn't able…
8. 19:32because you don't so once we know very very very difficult to have the training to…
9. 22:41and they say, "I can't believe I did that and you were always with me." And…
10. 25:20him to be open with you? How did you get him to be safe next to…

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