(9269) When should we change the strategy??

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] okay so the question is that now we're dealing with somebody who is barak hashem you're out of crisis the crisis that you came here with which was really horrible was including all kinds of terrible things and hashem we gave medicine called tp we gave him a mother we gave him a father we backed off all these rules and consequences and boundaries and which you did for how many years well i don't know what that means three ten years so for ten years you you treated him a certain way and he was completely broken and now you're here one year and you say that the the atmosphere is completely miraculously changed and he's bark hashem calm and he's bark hashem loving and he is all the problems on your list that you came with are gone now we have a problem after one year if we're going to continue doing this then he's in this bubble right and he's just going to be 30 and 40 and 50 and he's never going to feel that i have to make something out of myself instead he's going to continue doing nothing and he's just going to not grow so maybe now is the time to say okay now we do a different strategy because we created such a cocoon of love and without pressure right therefore he can't get to the next thing because what motivates

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1. 0:00[Music] okay so the question is that now we're dealing with somebody who is barak hashem…
2. 2:03an incredible degree you would be a fool to stop doing this because first of all…
3. 4:07when you don't have experience with this and you're the most these are the most wonderful…
4. 6:13that's the only organization you didn't call [Music] it was the only one and we and…
5. 8:17imagine that's an introduction that's not an end martial a guy a guy like us a…
6. 10:25he has in his mind so much pressure and it's holding him back he needs to…
7. 12:29he'll say my parents don't understand me they're pressuring me and pressure leads kids in pain…
8. 14:32tried this they didn't even know where he is they don't know where he's somewhere in…
9. 16:37don't work no but i got a job i remember when you were sitting here and…
10. 18:50until he gets healthy and even wedding guilt's healthy and even when for the rest of…

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