Son-in-Law's Second Chance - R' Yitzchok Caplen

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[music] >> If you want to live a long life, then guard your tongue from speaking evil. What's the way? How can we ensure ourselves that we'll guard [music] our tongues? The truth is that the possuk itself says it. Mi ohev yomim l'irois tov. You see the good in people, you'll never [music] speak bad about them. Not only that, you could stop others from speaking bad as well. Rav Volbe >> [music] >> spent the war years in Sweden. After the war, he mentioned that there was a certain woman [music] that he knew that it wasn't possible to speak lashon hara in her presence. No matter what a person said, she would always see the good, an opportunity to help a person. If someone would say, "That person is so bitter, he's always screaming at people." She would say, "Oh, he must have such a hard life. What can we do to help him?" If they would say that he's a lazy person, he'd say, "Oh, it must be that he has no reason to get up in the morning. What can we do to help the person?" Whatever the person would say, she would always just turn it into [music] opportunity for chesed. If you're l'irois tov, if you see the good, and the truth is that we don't have to just stop other people from speaking lashon hara to have an opportunity to do chesed. If we use our words properly, then not only will we

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1. 0:05[music] >> If you want to live a long life, then guard your tongue from speaking…
2. 0:36opportunity to help a person. If someone would say, "That person is so bitter, he's always…
3. 1:06not speak lashon hara, will we stop other people from speaking lashon hara, we could even…
4. 1:37in-laws in shul, >> [music] >> and he went over and he just said to him,…
5. 2:08Yiddish guy. And it's been a point of contention since I got married. After you went…
6. 2:38>> [music] >> literally save a person's life." Rav Wolbe said that just like we find…
7. 3:08word. No one to help them out. You could really [music] mi ha'ish ha'chafetz chaim, you…

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