Conversation - Marriage, Divorce, Abuse & Withholding a Get (Jan 6, 2021)

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The opening of this shiur, in Parsha Perspectives - Rabbi Efrem Goldberg’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

are listening live but after the fact will continue to hopefully not only learn from what our amazing panelists will share but also just to be able to create the conversation among the community because you know, evil prospers in under the cloak of darkness. And when people with really negative plans and really wicked behavior are allowed to operate then it's an indictment on all of us. So the degree to which the community converses and talks about and creates a culture of intolerance for intolerable behavior will be able to really work on and solve this issue on the question of preventing abuse. Now the main host tonight is the organization Aura, the organization of the resolution of Agunot. A really tremendous organization we'll hear more about momentarily with a a tremendous track record of helping free women who've been chained, who've been prevented from being able to move on, from being able to go on with their with their lives. And we're going to talk about most specifically narrowed in on the issue of abuse in the form of withholding a get, refusing to participate in inequitable and unjust and unfair dissolution of a marriage but using the fact that the Torah only allows the dissolution of a marriage with the man giving his wife a get to use that for leverage or to extort or to hold a woman hostage or to try to receive certain benefits that are unjust or unfair and inequitable is simply intolerable. This week we'll begin reading the book of Shmos, the second book of the Torah. It's the story of the Jewish people's descent into Egypt and our experience with bondage, with slavery, with oppression. And we'll read

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1. 0:32are listening live but after the fact will continue to hopefully not only learn from what…
2. 6:21what point a woman is an agunah. A woman's not an agunah just because she declares…
3. 12:33So, a little bit more about ORA. We were founded in 2002, actually as a student…
4. 19:03I am muted. Sorry. Thank you so much Keshet for your really informative and inspirational works…
5. 25:23remind us of our parents and the type of relationship we had with them. We recognize…
6. 32:16right? Because when people wind up in my office, and certainly if they wind up on…
7. 38:11psychological build. So, think about the men's groups that we have a we have a men's…
8. 44:30future-oriented, I think that's the critical piece. And to recognize that if you have children together,…
9. 50:49I I think that we'll be there for each other in a in a much healthier…
10. 57:06where it's impossible cuz they're they're surprised that it's even happening. They think there's something wrong…

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