Your child is not a family billboard | Rabbi Jacobson with a must-hear message for every parent

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The opening of this shiur, in הרב ג'ייקובסון • הפודקאסט’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Every mom and dad wants their children to succeed. Fair enough. Who doesn't? But sometimes we confuse two things. Do I want my child to succeed, or do I want my child to make me feel successful? And sometimes we aren't honest with ourselves. What do I care? I want him to succeed. But imagine a 14 -year-old boy who struggles in school. He doesn't succeed in studying Gemara like his brother. He loves music. He loves art, he loves working with his hands. His father is a great scholar. The whole family is known for its scholarship. His grandfather was a Yeshiva head. His father is an important Rabbi. The boy feels he is disappointing everyone. One day he says to his father, "Dad, I don't think I'm suited for this Yeshiva, it's hard for me.""I feel like I'm failing all the time.""What do you mean, Yankele?""Do you know who we are?""Do you know what family you come from?""What will people say about us?""What will people say about us?" Not "what are you going through?" Not "how do you feel?" Not " how can I help you find your own way to serve the Holy One, Blessed be He," but

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1. 0:00Every mom and dad wants their children to succeed. Fair enough. Who doesn't? But sometimes we…
2. 0:31The whole family is known for its scholarship. His grandfather was a Yeshiva head. His father…
3. 1:02rather "what will people say about us?" The boy understands the message; he is not just…
4. 1:32our name; they were born to discover their own souls. And the Holy One, Blessed be…
5. 2:03challenges are unique, and you shout and you complain and you go crazy, and I understand…

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