Rabbi Binyamin Yuhanan Parenting Class 45 Express Your Love to Your Children! Openly and Consisten

What’s said in this shiur

The opening of this shiur, in Emet Outreach’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

And my father openly displeased, had no choice but to hear what I wanted in exchange for the afikoman. I tried to overcome the trembling I suddenly felt. I breathed deeply and then spat it out. I want you to kiss me just once in your life. The silence was palpable. I assume that I was as red as a beet. It took some time before I dared lift my head. I glanced around and suddenly felt tears of relief. My oldest brother, the pride of the family, the model of perfection, whom they always pushed me to be like, was wiping away a tear. I also noticed my older married sister, the one who was always right on hand to help my parents with my chinuch, covering her eyes with a tissue. My mother was crying. My father was in shock. So, it wasn't just me. I wasn't the only one sentimental weakling in my capable unsentimental family. I'm not the only weirdo. It didn't heal my hurt. I don't think it will ever heal entirely, but I'm aware of it now and I understand it. That's also something. You were right. I apologize. This report illustrates that a child's denial proves nothing. This is an immensely important point for anyone who utilizes such denials as an excuse for not expressing love. Oh, my child doesn't need. My child is fine. If these people would understand that children cannot always identify the lacks that they suffer from. If they would realize that children are liable to deny their distress and suppress it from themselves

Jump to a moment

1. 0:00And my father openly displeased, had no choice but to hear what I wanted in exchange…
2. 2:03if they could be convinced that this is a need and cannot be filled by itself.…
3. 4:06expression of affection and love provided on a regular basis. And not only that, a lean…
4. 6:10This speaks for itself. Now, it's true that we have to praise the child when they…
5. 8:45doing good things? When you make love dependent on good behavior, it's no different. Expressing love…
6. 10:50This brought parents and child into a vicious cycle. The more the parents behaved distantly to…
7. 12:54"I'm very unhappy that the typewriter broke. It was very expensive. I'm also very unhappy that…
8. 15:27In many cases, this causes the opposite effect. The child becomes rebellious and obnoxious. He can't…
9. 17:29change their approach, thus easing the child's anxiety. I accept you, no matter what. Whatever grades…
10. 19:37Because then the child will get confused. That is the only time when we officially do…

Every second of this shiur plays inside Lehallel — a filtered YouTube library of Torah, music and shiurim. No ads, no comments, no autoplay.