Survivor Support: Validate Her Healing, Not Abuse #shorts

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The opening of this shiur, in Amudim’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

The question starts off with what do I do if there's going to be a family simcha and the abuser is going to be there? Yeah. What do I do with my child who is the victim? Child's been in therapy for 7 years, nothing helps. In the last 7 years that you knew about this, was there ever any family function that occurred that because the abuser was at, she couldn't go? She said, "Of course." I said, "So, you did nothing for 7 years?" But, how could your heal if every time they turn around, the abuser is validated over the victim? So, you are telling her you believe her, but there's no chance to heal. Well, there's going to be a simcha and the chasan are coming up and and my parents are coming in and my parents I I have to I said, "You don't go to any simcha that your daughter won't go to." You're talking about support, the real support, the >> support, the validation. If she can't go, and this is a fact that this was happening and you were validated, you

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1. 0:00The question starts off with what do I do if there's going to be a family…
2. 0:30But, how could your heal if every time they turn around, the abuser is validated over…
3. 1:03don't go. >> This girl, how is she ever going to heal? What you're saying is…
4. 1:36speak about this freely is while I I speak very harshly, but the fact is we…
5. 2:08time. I can't magically make it disappear. If a person has a major surgery, they lose…
6. 2:40willing to listen to this already shows that they're strong.…

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