(264) CRITICISM - a deeper understanding

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

okay so the question is criticism right your child is doing something like we'll be here he's stabbing the walls and whatever it is for each person if you close your eyes or keep them open you can think of something I'm sure that your kid does that you want to criticize okay so should you criticize them nicely should you criticize them not nicely what should you do so the answer is as follows the answer is that I believe I believe that the children acting out our kids acting out are sick and therefore as soon as you move to physical illness almost all of the questions go away imagine your kid has fever and they have a stomach virus and your kid goes ahead and throws up right on the living room white couch would you go over and say listen please if you you know not the couch you know please not the couch now let's say you did it would be Meshuga but what do you mean it's a good point you don't want to have all of this vomit on the white couch it's true and he should be more considerate and do it in the toilet that's well everything is true but why are you why would everybody look at somebody who criticized their kid about where the kid threw up as a nut you know why because if you do that means that you're coming into the picture thinking that this kid has bashira that this kid had a choice you're coming into the room thinking that I have to teach my kid right from wrong because they're so stupid and evil

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