Remove the bad child to save the rest??? (siblings) (skips) (91118)

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

There are currently hundreds and thousands of families that are getting bad advice and they end up in so many painful situations the tepee families around the world don't end up in as difficult as it is to have a kid at home when you have clarity and you're following everybody has their own rough to ask any shilus we have to appreciate what we don't have and this is a a WhatsApp that I got got just now and I want to address that and I unfortunately besides for dealing full-time with the parents under my care I'm getting WhatsApps all the time from kids from siblings from aunts and uncles from from parents who are completely lost from relatives from neighbors it's very very painful to me so this is what this father in pain is asking about his done. Dear Avi, do you ever feel that one bad apple spoils the bunch? I would tolerate if he would just do his own thing, but he's actively blaring inappropriate music, discussing matters like girlfriends, gay, lesbian, body parts, etc. showing the younger kids things on his phone that I don't want, leaving his phone on throughout Chabas, bringing it to the Shabas table, walking outside and smoking cigarettes in front of the house, and then the younger kids see all of these things, and it seems like they're all going to become at risk. And also, my time and my patience is very limited, and I can't be at home all the time to manage what's going on. Isn't it best for me to find him another home to express himself and I could try to strengthen the younger ones? And I'll hope and pray that someone can carry him back to safety. How painful for a parent who loves his son and sees all of this horrific behavior. is worried about his other kids

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1. 0:04There are currently hundreds and thousands of families that are getting bad advice and they end…
2. 2:17is being very loving, very logical and I think we have about a thousand families and…
3. 5:00Helim for the kid in pain for their safety, emotional, mental, psychological, spiritual, they should be…
4. 7:35Every person in this family says a family is like a puzzle. And if you're missing…
5. 9:45all the questions that you have and all the pain that you have and all the…
6. 12:29believe but we have testimony by Rabburi Zohar Zatal and by somebody by by his grandson…
7. 15:18we have to deal with it right. But if you're really worried, send away the healthier…
8. 17:27hardship. I'm with you in your hardship. The same thing that we want Hashem to tell…
9. 20:11parents to get them angry because we're in existential war against them. Running out and sneaking…
10. 22:46backwards. You think you're helping your kid, you're not. You're hurting them. You think that being…

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