What DESTROYS our kids (and many adults!) ☆ מה הורס את הילדים שלנו (והרבה מבוגרים!) (Heb ST) (9496)

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[music] >> Albert Einstein was a very smart Jew. He said everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, he will live his whole life believing [music] that he's stupid. And this is something that we have to internalize. We have beautiful moistures, but we have so many kids that are very smart, but they can't sit still. Either they're too smart and then when the rebbe reviews it, they're bored, so they're fidgety or they can't keep up with the program. We really built like a lot of Yeshivas, but so many of them have like kind of the same tracks. And we need to have Yeshivas cuz we're so big. There's so many kids in Klal Yisrael. So you could have like 5,000 kids, maybe more, with learning disabilities. You could have like 5,000 kids with ADD, 5,000 kids with ADHD, and we can't keep on trying to keep them in in the regular classroom. And we can't keep on medicating their brains to dull them so they should you know, and not be fidgety and not be making noise and stuff like that. We got to realize that we can make moistures that have tracks and it's not insulting cuz those kids with ADD ADHD, many of them are more successful than their counterparts. You know, they said there's one kid that had ADHD. He had ADHD. Right? His whole school career, couldn't sit, was always sent out, couldn't sit, you know? And he ended up becoming this like multi

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1. 0:00[music] >> Albert Einstein was a very smart Jew. He said everyone is a genius, but…
2. 2:12And so many people end up because they didn't have the regular personality to sit and…
3. 4:53grade and the Rosh Yeshiva told me, he said, "Next year this kid needs a high…
4. 7:34and he's like by us in our family, in our structure, it's just you know, we…
5. 9:45It's not for everybody, you know? But learning with chiyus and with fun and with davening…
6. 12:24just life trauma. Difficulty in school, got embarrassed a couple times, was bullied, was not so…
7. 15:05We don't want kids walking around thinking that they're stupid. Any kind of a situation that…
8. 17:09likable. And if I'm not likable, I have no reason to live. And a few days…
9. 19:44but ask them and work with them. But on the little kids, boost them, ask them,…
10. 22:22When parents are disrespecting the kid, "Get out of here. What are you doing?" Like just…

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