Deep life lessons: How to become an INFLUENCER of SOULS (9107)

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] Having one kip is a full-time job, right? Some people have two, some people have three, some people have four, some people got a group on, they have five. And it's, you say it's like m five full-time jobs. It's impossible. But you see here in group, some people are doing three and look how calm they are. Some people have five. They're calm. And the answer is very simple. If I only change for you, but I'm still nervous, anxious, controlling, um, judgmental, right? Then it's double the work. Well, I just described you. But if I change me, then I can have five, I could have 10, I could have 20. Because every kid is like a magnet. every kid in pain and every person is a magnet to a person who's non-judgmental and and wants to be with you. So what are we trying to do? If we shed from ourselves judgment, we don't judge. I don't think I'm better than you. You know, when I had home sweet home, I didn't have any training. I opened a home. I took kids who were stealing, who were doing drugs, some of them for years. Um, one guy was doing cocaine for months and we before that for years. And you know they were it was difficult. These were kids who got thrown out of everything not just yeshiva even rehabs some of them psychwards one of them schmad before he came he was a tattoos and and I didn't have any training and it was a really dumb idea

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1. 0:00[Music] Having one kip is a full-time job, right? Some people have two, some people have…
2. 3:50judge every person. Why does it say how do you even say that in English? Judge…
3. 8:08right and then everybody all of a sudden we had like 30 people like an army…
4. 12:32to learn. Not holding by that. So that's pit. Now what should you do? Very simple.…
5. 16:15So our job is to purify ourselves. Now once you purify yourself that you're not judging…
6. 20:36using the all of them says in Shalom if you look at the lion of the…
7. 24:45And I always say when you're there, I hope you're not there, but if you're there,…
8. 28:24further away it was so kak obviously was rebelling against myu and hashem and everything so…
9. 32:39Please God, look at our problems, our issues, our pain, and not at our sins. That's…
10. 36:52anybody remember the name special jacket that he put on before he before he hit his…

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