How Structure Builds Security: A Parent’s Guide to Healthy Discipline

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi David Elmaleh’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

25. >> Okay. So, Kadosh, we're going to start the second which is basically building the foundation this the obligation and advantage of instilling authority in children. Obviously, we first wanted to say we wanted to thank our dear friend David Becker and his dear wife for opening up their doors. He should have a lot of in his house the is going to be huh but it's everything children grandchildren everything here they should have the will be also and it's and also We're going to start as follows. So today we're going to speak about the gift of discipline. Now many times you have to know that whenever you're going to give a present, a gift, it's very important what the gift wrap. The gift wrap especially for women is more important than the gift. >> I tried it. >> It doesn't work. Okay. But the gift wrap is more important than the actual gift in itself. And therefore we are going to actually understand as follows. So we have the gift. The gift is that we have the discipline and authority in that's the way that it is. But the gift wrap is going to be the approach to how we think and how we're going to approach this subject. So that's going to be the gift wrap which again we have the gift gave us children and that's a gift in itself. And now the question is how do we come and we're going to educate them properly. So in order to understand this, we're first going to have to understand that there's no such thing as an instruction booklet for Yeah, I got that very clear. No such thing as an instruction booklet for now. The question is, so how do we work? How are we going to start? If there's no

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2. 6:12>> the p >> the pig the pig right the pig is symbolized by isav why…
3. 12:34them. >> Yeah. >> Right. So now what's going to happen? Right. You didn't do anything.…
4. 18:54there's going to be more correct. But when they all come together to form one, you…
5. 25:19is the capacity for consistent selfdisipline which means that if you're going to discipline yourself and…
6. 31:38voice. Don't think that because you scream, right, that you're going to come and get listened…
7. 37:54in the future. Now the same thing happens with chocolate. Did it ever happen? We already…
8. 44:16they don't have that because they never had authority. So if you're going to tell them…
9. 50:40Right. It says like this people they have anxiety. Why do they have anxiety? They're nervous.…
10. 57:07just to make everybody else afraid. I do agree with that. So I never said never…

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