(247) Truly understanding our Kids in Pain!!

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

The concept is that Hashem does not expect a to to be judged the same as a healthy person who's walking. So, a child goes through a trauma. Any person goes through a trauma, goes through a situation. Hashem is a rachum, a chanon. He's understanding, and every person is sent down to Earth, and they have a different mission. Somebody who's dyslexic is not meant to sit and learn. That's cruelty. That's cruel. If we could fix it, whatever. We know that Hashem judges by effort, lefum tzara agra. We know that Hashem judges by effort. Hashem doesn't expect every kid to get a 100 on the test. Some kids, they just sit there, they don't even try. And they just get a 100. Other kids are going through trauma, or they're dysfunctional, or they're dyslexic. They can't get the same mark. It would be a cruel Hashem, a cruel God, to expect everybody to get the same mark. Not only that, Hashem rewards for the ameilus of Torah. And the Sefer haChinuch brings down that the ikar schar for learning is on the ameilus. So, if you can go through with a daf yomi shiur, and you're not working very hard cuz you just naturally enjoy it, and you listen, and you could focus, you get less schar than the one who is struggling to focus, or the one with ADD, or ADHD, or LD, or any kind of letters you want to put after his name, or just going through a hard time. He just lost a lot of money, or he has bills, and he and he has daigas. He's not expected to perform like everybody else. Yes, a person himself has to try and all of that. That's true. But, for us to judge other people by the standard of a

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