Chinuch Is About Building Ratzon

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi David Elmaleh’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Okay. So, we're going to speak about today is going to be shu number nine which we're going to speak about an incredible concept which is called means as follows. If I want right now that my child is going to do something, is it better that I have to tell them to do it or they want to do it? >> They want to do it. >> They want to do it. Right now, why should it be like that? >> Because by nature, what happens? >> When I tell you to do something, >> push back. >> You push back. That's called we explained it if you remember in the psychology we said that a human being is made out of which means out of fire the fire has a rebellion so for example if I come and I tell you right if you decide to do it on your own so you did it on your own accord but if I come and I tell you to do something you don't want so for example let's say you're smoking and I tell you stop smoking what happens automatically you're going to want to smoke and you'll smoke him in front of my face or you'll do it even if it's by my back or if I'm going to force you not to do it. You're going to make sure that I'm not watching or whatever it is and you're going to do it. But why? Because this is the nature of a human being. But if I make that you want to stop smoking, so what happens? It's much easier. And that's really a wisdom to always direct or channel that you always want to direct them that it's not you're telling them what to do.

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