What To Do For a Teenager Who Doesn�t Want to Get Up and Do Anything?

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Mordechai Salfer’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

i want to ask you what you think got a phone call yesterday about a guy who was learning in a yeshiva major learner big learner in fact such a big massimid such a mess learned in top yeshivas and i don't know if something happened something just like switched something just like switched huh just like i don't know it's just like snap crackle pop i don't know something happened and it just he turned and now he doesn't like to get up in the morning he doesn't want to do anything he um you name it i mean it's just it went from bad to worse now is he doing such horrible things not so bad not the worst yet but he's like this is not the worst yet but he's like this is he's in his early 20s and he just decided i'm not uh i'm not doing anything leave me alone now so they went to all kinds reasons why i'm bringing this up because they went to all kinds of professionals and the professionals told them you know he needs a break he needs a break let him sleep let him relax now he's been doing this for a couple years now for a couple years now but they go like you know you're hounding him and you're trying to get him to do stuff and you're trying to get him to be productive and do jobs leave him alone just accept him accept him right now he wants acceptance so no matter what he does whether he learns whether he doesn't learn whether he gets up whether he doesn't get up just acceptance that's what he really wants and that's going to make him you know i don't know be better or whatever that

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10. 29:00the time one of these guys the guy laying in bed says nah it's not going…

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