The #10 commandment of Dating: Don’t Fall to Soulmate Syndrome - Rabbi Eli Deutsch

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You have no soulmate. Welcome back to the 10 Commandments of dating. We're up to commandment number 10. Thou shalt not fall to soulmate syndrome. What do I mean by that? Well, people are out there talking about soulmates. What happens for many people is that they meet someone and they feel a strong connection. They develop a deep connection and understanding with one another, and then they use the S word. They start calling each other soulmates. Here's the problem though, so often over time during dating, they start to have time during dating, they start to have some bickering. And then that bickering increases, and then that bickering increases more. And the thing is, they already locked in this whole soulmate word. They committed to the concept of soulmate. They already categorized this person as their soulmate. And so what happens sometimes is that they continue the relationship even though it's just constant bickering to the point where they can take it all the way down the aisle. Now, here's the crazy thing. If I were to pull them aside before they

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1. 0:00You have no soulmate. Welcome back to the 10 Commandments of dating. We're up to commandment…
2. 0:31time during dating, they start to have some bickering. And then that bickering increases, and then…
3. 1:02If I were to pull them aside before they walk down the aisle individually and say…
4. 1:32is. If you go into it through the head space of I have no soulmate then…
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