Neurodivergence & TRUTH TELLERS in narcissistic families (SCAPEGOAT origin story)

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shais Taub’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

hey there this is rabish hayab I want to share with you a thought that might for some of you make a lot of things make sense and it's based on the story of The Emperor's New Clothes you know that story it's uh it was made famous by Hans Christian Anderson the Danish author but it's actually an old Legend it goes back way before then basically these scammers come and uh they know the king is a fool and that he is very vain so they trick him by saying this these clothes are so beautiful and so magnificent only a real beautiful and so magnificent only a real incredible person can see them and of course the king doesn't want to admit that he can't see them so there's nothing there it's really a pantomine there are no clothes at all um but the king won't admit that he doesn't see the clothes so that everyone else has to go along with it when he's parading around naked and they have to pretend they also see the clothes until this one little boy says Hey the emperor is wearing no clothes and everybody laughs at the king so I think that story explains a lot about about narcissistic about about narcissistic families and the scapegoat now I'll tell you first of all standard disclaimer I'm a rabbi this channel soulwords is a channel about Jewish mysticism and spirituality and its application to our lives um I'm not a mental health professional it happens to be sometimes when we're studying certain texts we apply them to day-to-day life and we end up sort of foraying into areas of mental health and and family systems there was a class that I gave several months ago

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1. 0:00hey there this is rabish hayab I want to share with you a thought that might…
2. 1:03about about narcissistic families and the scapegoat now I'll tell you first of all standard disclaimer…
3. 2:37that uh that class it's a it's a much longer class but the idea that in…
4. 3:38gonna think why would anyone punish their kid for doing well well you have to understand…
5. 5:41everybody else seems to know just the basic rules for how adults function or even since…
6. 6:43know it's 11:32 okay and then there's other stuff that's even more bew wildering to a…
7. 8:13pick up on stuff that makes no sense to them and play along with this game…
8. 9:15basically getting relief from this really intense Al estatic load that you're carrying just from trying…
9. 10:46narcissistic family that is a capital crime and especially because a narcissist can't imagine that anyone's…
10. 11:48squir him oh no he has a conscience of course he has a conscience um so…

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