Marriage Workshop | Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shay Tahan’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Okay. So, the topic tonight, we're going to deal with some of the 10 really dumb mistakes that really smart couples make. And it's his wife. He's telling his wife he's listen. [laughter] Okay. We deal with some of the 10 really dumb mistakes that very smart. You still have to read the book, but we'll get we'll get you started a little bit. Okay. So, let me begin with one observation. Great marriage is isn't as tough as it seems. Okay. Let's begin. In 1901, the divorce rate in United States America was about 6%. That means the vast majority of marriages work. Divorce vast majority of marriages work. Divorce rate in the United States of America today is about 50%. 50%. Now in the world, it's much much less than that. But nevertheless, we're seeing unprecedented amount of bitter fightings, fragmented families, divorce. And here's a key critical question that I want you to think about. What changed? Why is it that by and large marriages used to work and they no longer do? You guys also scream. Okay? And if you hear that noise, please shut please. I beg you, please. That noise is going to keep on until you shut the phone. It really I don't know why but it's it's one of those um Bluetooth issues. So if you

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2. 4:35Please, ladies, anyone have the phone on? You know, when the pilot says, "Please shut the,"…
3. 9:41bring up the kids in way. She prefers more fish. You can't send the kids to…
4. 14:46Very nice." Maybe 10 years later, she bought me another card. I said, "What's it?" "Oh,…
5. 19:50convince your wife that you love her, that you cherish this number one, life changes. Life…
6. 24:53Embrace her as she is or you suffer. I said to this woman with the socks…
7. 29:2930 years, and you'll still do it. But why? You know why? You know why a…
8. 34:38He's about to come home at 6:30 night. He's about to put the key in the…
9. 39:45able to dig in with scientific curiosity, understand the world of your spouse. Why does this…
10. 44:52did Hashem change? Why did Hashem say that she is too old? Because even though it…

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