The Jewish Parent’s Guide to Money, Work and Family

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The opening of this shiur, in Living Lchaim’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

what children really want is not luxuries not indulgences what they want is an authentic relationship with their parents and very often parents will convince themselves that rather than spending time with their children rather than giving attention to their children they're going to work extra hard to make more money so they could do more things for their children I call that the big lie you know parents have this big lie I'm working all day 40 hours a day you know 90 hours a week for my children on know 90 hours a week for my children on that's not that's not for your children it's a big lie or I'm going to take my family to Hawaii for 3 weeks for the kids it's not for the kids you're using your children as an excuse to indulge in things that you want to do it's a big lie you know what your kids want your kids want a relationship with you today we're talking about one of the biggest stressors in Modern Life money why do we work harder than ever yet we still feel trapped why does Financial pressure dominate our choices and most importantly are we chasing success or importantly are we chasing success or just stress to break this down we're joined by m Bane a rabbi a lawyer and a leader in the Jewish Community from Decades of investing advising entrepreneurs and mentoring families all the way to overseeing the Orthodox Union his perspective is sharp his insights are eye openening and his message uncomfortable but it's necessary if you've ever felt the weight of making a living this conversation is for you trust me you do not want to miss this let's dig in

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1. 0:00what children really want is not luxuries not indulgences what they want is an authentic relationship…
2. 5:05money and expenses and I think that kind of mindset number one teaches you how to…
3. 10:39that's how children learn and that's what they adopt when you lecture to them then they…
4. 16:18hair out trying to find all your donation receipts across dozens of organizations the donor's fund…
5. 22:25to be in school I wish I was in Yeshiva again never really understood what it…
6. 28:10person do you want to be and even the way parents Focus their children's mindset is…
7. 33:48said what do you mean moral our rabbis tell us what morality is we have to…
8. 39:58make or you know there there are parallels between the two so when you look back…
9. 45:35intelligent decision in that regard but if it's a responsible decision I would encourage them to…
10. 51:12turns out to be the president of a synagogue or his day school and he makes…

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