Why MEN Feel INSECURE in Marriages

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shais Taub’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

If you want to understand why men feel insecure in marriage, there are many reasons why, but I'm going to explain to you from an existential perspective. When I say existential, what I mean is it has nothing to do with particular circumstances or conditions which are always in flux and changing in every different situation. What I'm talking about is something existential, something that is basically a constant. It's almost unavoidable unless you know how to maneuver around it. And that's why it's important to know it. And and here it is. It's the basic uh masculine feminine dynamic which requires understanding these paradigms. And I'm going to try to make it very very simple. Masculine and feminine, we associate those with with gender, with male, with female. The reality is they exist as archetypes, as purely spiritual ideas in the higher worlds before they even devolve and come down here as uh man and woman as as as we know it. And in the spiritual realm, uh masculine feminine actually is giver and recipient. Now, I know that's very triggering because people say, "Well, hold on." They try to work it out. So, masculine is giver and feminine is recipient. And that's like a dirty word, recipient. That means like I'm the loser. I'm I'm the one who doesn't have I'm standing around. I'm waiting for the giver to give me, you know, I'm I'm the one I'm the dole. I'm I have to wait around to to to get a hand out. So stop right there. If you're feeling

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