The Real Purpose of Marriage - Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch

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[Music] couples asked me all the time what's the real purpose of marriage and I was once at a lecture and I asked the same question to the couples that were there what do you think is the reason to get married one person got up and said the reason to get married is for financial reasons if you marry somebody has a good profession they're a doctor they're a lawyer you're an accountant they're a successful businessperson you're gonna be happy the next person got up and said the reason to get married is to have children the third person got up and said the reason to get married is to spend a lot of time having fun together traveling seeing movies and so on and I thought a lot about that I wanted to find a deeper reason and I realized the Torah itself tells us the real purpose of marriage where do we see this just after the beginning of creation Adam wanted to get married and the Torah teaches a tremendous lesson it says aldini azov ish as mov aviv when a person wants to get married they have to leave their father and mother the Dove look for each day they have to cleave in their wife the high rule a bus or a hot and they become one flesh what is one flesh mean Rashi tells us it's not really you become physically one because you don't you become one when you have a child says Rashi you share your genetic material we know this in science today with your spouse and together you form

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1. 0:01[Music] couples asked me all the time what's the real purpose of marriage and I was…
2. 0:31they're a successful businessperson you're gonna be happy the next person got up and said the…
3. 1:01teaches a tremendous lesson it says aldini azov ish as mov aviv when a person wants…
4. 1:32one flesh but psychologically we know today there's something called attachment there's a brilliant theory called…
5. 2:03going to experience a lifetime of happiness with one another how does this attachment really work…
6. 2:33themselves in the other person that is the essence of attachment when you get involved in…
7. 3:05the things they like and avoid the things they dislike if you view the person as…
8. 3:35spouse couples they get too involved with just taking care of their children and forget themselves…
9. 4:06cleaving to one another and becoming one and recognizing that one that the other person is…
10. 4:37answering your questions you have about marriage relationships dating parenting and about any issue dealing with…

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