The First Date (Shidduch Series #9) (Ep. 123)

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

a number of members of the family and uh listen i wish everybody will i want you to have bracha and uh and ishmael nephesh and shalom and allah good to zakin as they say yeah so we're talking about shidduchim and we've talked at length about two issues namely clarifying what are your values number one and number two um and number two um making sure that you're able to communicate this to the right and like i say the shotgun doesn't have to be an official position it could be somebody who um [Music] the two of you know et cetera we discussed uh hundred the last time and what you would ideally look for and things like that so uh so now we're we're ready to move forward right you have a suggestion move forward right you have a suggestion presumably it's been checked out already right if the shotgun knows his job knows him and knows you but uh caveat emptier as the expression goes you have an obligation to check for yourself we mentioned last time some things that people check into that to me does not seem like uh really important issues but you know basically you're going to check in to see whether or not the person is a nice person you know person you know good people every howard has this marvelous video that uh he made with somebody about looking into a off and they're asking this question and that question you know at the end they say well are they nice people he says i tell you the truth nobody ever asked me that um i've spoken to hasidim on this subject i see them say listen you know we look at it from the point of view that there are two families they have their children's best interest in mind

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1. 0:30a number of members of the family and uh listen i wish everybody will i want…
2. 5:11by the other people sometimes when you have a friend on the inside they'll share information…
3. 10:25manhattan i have to pay tolls i have to pay for parking we go into a…
4. 15:12conversation they're like um so this fellow went out with a girl and she has an…
5. 20:17[Music] the um a bacha wrote in a question and said like this and i thought…
6. 25:30off-putting maybe it's the way they wrinkle their snows at you or make it look like…
7. 30:07having said that i didn't ask him this question but having said that i'm sure there…
8. 35:19wishing mazel tov running around you know in america it's not like that you know so…
9. 39:58afraid that the seats might be sharpness so i stayed up the whole train ride i…
10. 45:08my sister-in-law told me about this couple that they had over their house for three years…

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