“I Resent All the Pesach Restrictions; My Seder Is Full of Guilt; May I Reject My Father’s Customs?”

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi YY Jacobson’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

parents my journey at Fresh Start was amazing and very healing with that being said I still have lots of pain in me lots of trauma that I don't want to relive but P does bring up a lot until now it was hard enough now both of my parents have passed in the past few years and I'm the oldest child in the family I still have a bunch of unmarried siblings and I'm trying to work through my journey my spouse is also dealing with a lot depression anxiety and obviously being the oldest son I have all the younger siblings come to me for PES off PES off I am definitely overwhelmed and freaking out I feel like I can barely handle myself my wife and children and now I have to do all my siblings with me which will remind me even more of my Sedar and my home growing up any words of advice would help me how do I handle all that I can't even think of it never mind giving my wife the proper physic she needs to prepare for y wow and what you said the second second one second one is I'm a 27y old second one second one is I'm a 27y old and uh I don't really enjoy face off there's not much that I enjoy um truthfully I struggle with many Mitzvah I seem like a very normal guy I'm in the sh para people think I'm a good good boy I come from yesha family but my parents are very strict and everything is a big deal everything is constantly measured just by how more religious can we be at this moment no one seems to see the humanity of the children or what our needs are how do I

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1. 0:31parents my journey at Fresh Start was amazing and very healing with that being said I…
2. 6:14each other and at these seminars and workshops we try to be blunt with each other…
3. 12:26you sometimes you don't have a child you're there with yourself be present to the child…
4. 18:42you would say Mommy I love you but this is what I need to do for…
5. 24:51anybody because it's really unfair because I don't know all the circumstances I'm just giving a…
6. 31:01so bored I didn't not what to do I didn't have a book I didn't have…
7. 37:10is with there tremendous amounts of amount of stringencies people don't eat out there's people yeah…
8. 43:21that that original PES looked exactly what our PES looks like today well I I really…
9. 49:33there may be particles of flour and if the mat gets wet even one particle of…
10. 55:41they want a prize what's the meaning of this the meaning is that whatever we hide…

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