10 Tips for Parents of Children in Shidduchim

What’s said in this shiur

The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Efrem Goldberg’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Welcome to the concluding segment of the 10K but the Israel series entitled gaining strength with every shidduch suggestion. One of the overarching themes behind the formation of 10K but the Israel is that every shidduch suggestion has purpose. While the shidduch process can be challenging, long, and sometimes even seemingly feel to be lacking in purpose, it's important to remind ourselves that there is no hishtadlus on any level and no suggestion and no first date that is without reason or value. It is with this in mind that we started this series gaining strength with every shidduch suggestion. We hope that you leave feeling renewed purpose and strength with every bit of hishtadlus put in wherever you are in the process. And may these efforts translate into increased siyata d'Shmaya in everyone's individual journey toward the chuppah. Having just come through Tu B'Av reminds us that timing is everything and that this is a particularly promising time to be involved in shidduchim in any role. It is a great honor to introduce our speaker, Rabbi Ephraim Goldberg, shlita. Rabbi Ephraim Goldberg serves as a senior rabbi of the Boca Raton Synagogue, which is the largest Orthodox synagogue in the Southeast United States. His dynamic breadth of Torah knowledge, and personal warmth has helped make Boca Raton a destination of choice as a home for many Jewish families. He's involved as co-chair of the Rabbinical Kashruth, director of conversions for the Beth Din of Florida,

Jump to a moment

1. 0:12Welcome to the concluding segment of the 10K but the Israel series entitled gaining strength with…
2. 6:21investigations. We're so focused in the shidduch process on behalf of our children or in support…
3. 12:27our middos? How do we carry ourselves? Are we realizing, are we pursuing, are we fulfilling…
4. 18:31Adam we can teach our children that this is an invitation an opportunity to not only…
5. 24:40something. L'olam yochal adam b'ishah pachus m'she'eish lo. A person should always live a lifestyle that…
6. 30:49in motion and walk away and step away, but every day he has to remain involved.…
7. 37:07to deliberate, to receive resumes, to talk about who should be the next shidduch, to talk…
8. 43:13hashkafa, halacha, they matter. But what matters even more, all the marriage counseling I've done as…
9. 49:24And then a person has another child who has earned advanced degrees and is uh educated…
10. 55:30we call in the Yiddish, the ability to fargin others, to share in their joy, to…

Every second of this shiur plays inside Lehallel — a filtered YouTube library of Torah, music and shiurim. No ads, no comments, no autoplay.