How to get it Shalom Ba-yit (Peace at home) - Rabbi Alon Anava

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Then we want to talk about Schlomite and this is one of the one of the topics that most people have arguments with or disagreements. In any disagreement and in any anger or arguments, there's no black and white how to solve it. There's no book that says the book of solutions. There's no such a book because one cannot say this is the solution for that argument. There's no such a thing because every argument or every disagreement or any situation that somebody is upset at me or I'm upset at somebody it's they say in Hebrew call me every case we have to look at the case and we have to see what aroused it and what happened and what preceded it and how did it start and there's so many elements. So any argument the unfortunately there's no book that says follow these steps but the basic foundation of solving any argument is first of all coming to terms that I do not want to have the argument. Some people they have such a a thought feeling in motion that I want to have an argument. Some people that's their nature. They're happy with the fact that I'm making you miserable. That's the nature. Whatever. It doesn't matter if character trait issues from from their childhood. I'm not going to analyze people's behavior. But there are situation that it's the person's agenda to create a fight and not to be not to back off. Now

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