Conflict Resolution: Mediation with Kids is better than Litigation: Save Time and Aggravation

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Yisroel Roll’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

tonight's topic on our program of the resilient single mother dealing with parenting skills and how to handle single motherhood is the topic of conflict resolution when i lived in london england i served as the rabbi of the new west end synagogue in downtown london and every morning i would have to drive my children from downtown london 30 minutes from w2 30 minutes from w2 the west end to gold is green to catch two different buses the boys bus and the girls bus to base by the torah tema to go and catch their buses to go to school after i dropped them off of the buses i dropped in for breakfast most mornings to the home of diane hannoch erin troy who was the is the former al bastian of the london basin became very close with him became abandoned for him at breakfast with him and his revision with him and his revision and i would listen to ambition dealing with communal activities uh right now diana choi needs a refuge lima he has had a stroke it's not well and in london we're doubting for him so please have him in your thoughts roy so when i would listen to him listening to communal disputes and sometimes people came into him and i was there and people came into him and i was there and he would ask since i was a rabbi so i was allowed to sit in on some of the sessions she would ask the litigants or the people who are coming to to him for itsa for da's torah he would say okay what is your view and i would hear and listen to the view what i would have done is immediately give an answer saying well that's right that's wrong that's ridiculous that's that's correct makes sense but he would say nothing

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1. 0:05tonight's topic on our program of the resilient single mother dealing with parenting skills and how…
2. 3:42mediator when i mediate disputes in families where oftentimes the family adult siblings disagree about how…
3. 7:16combative but as long as you hear the other person let them speak let them event…
4. 10:55this music with me and spend some time with me oh and the mother listened to…
5. 14:34scrubbing but now we're starting to draw the child in so express your feelings and have…
6. 18:07the store the grocery store we say well you made a choice today you're not going…
7. 21:45now you've got common ground here you've got common ground and you've came to a solution…
8. 25:20teenager and something which is a pet peeve of all of ours is a messy room…
9. 29:01what a mom and dad and what did mom and son say about those things review…
10. 32:39ground let's come up with an alternative to dispute an alternative to screaming and yelling an…

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