SPEAK IT OUT — Verbalizing Breaks Self-Deception (Rabbi Yehoshua Nissan)

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Yehoshua Nissan’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Okay. So, listen to this tremendous uh insight a realm of insight from my grandfather. This is the Torah of my grandfather of Twerski uh zatzal, who was a rav and rebbe in Denver, posek makubal, and a tremendous individual. So, here we go. Ish ki yaflifli neder, when a person will Again, you simply translate, will make a vow. Ish ki yaflifli neder. In other words, yaflifli is a very strange word, and yaflifli is a very strange word, and that's what my grandpa's going to tackle. What does it mean? Ish ki yaflifli neder, when a person will make a vow. U'feirush Rashi, what does Rashi say? What does yaflifli neder mean? Yefareish be'viv. When a person will utter with their mouth the vow. Yeish l'havin. We have to understand the inyan nedarim, regarding this idea of vows. Lo matzichim davka lefaitem bepeh. Why do you have to utter it with your mouth? V'ha kol holeich acharei me'rosho, and V'ha kol holeich acharei me'rosho, and the halacha is, everything goes by what you said, v'lo acharei kavanaso, not what you thought. This is halachos of vows, they go by what you said, not by what you thought. So, my grandpa says, why? Why is it so linked to what you utter with your lips? Yeish l'meimar. Al pi pashut. So, he's going to start with this like simple idea, and then expand it by getting into the word yaflifli. What

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3. 6:07actual vow to lock yourself into something. We like to do the other way, which is…
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5. 12:22A guy thinks I'm very mighty. I could do a lot of things. A lot of…
6. 15:25of thoughts, things I want to do, a lot of uh resolutions I want to accept…
7. 18:29wrong over the it's a very spiritually elevated time. Yes, but in the spiritual elevation, it…
8. 21:40Because a lot of times a person does not have the proper measure and understanding of…
9. 24:47speak it out, you gain a clarity that you didn't have in your own mind. In…
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