Looking for the perfect match? Tips for getting married - Rabbi Alon Anava

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We're going to have a beautiful evening tonight. And we want to talk about a very uh very important subject is because unfortunately in our generation there's so many people who are still looking for their soulmate, their other half. And just a few months ago we had a beautiful big Purim event. And during the event I stood up and I started giving brochos to everybody in the room. And after I finished I told my wife, "Look at that. Besides two people, everybody here is single." There were two people who were married. And then everybody else in the event was all singles. All the brochos, "You should get married. You should get married." Some point I stopped saying "You should get married." I said, "All of you should just get married." So, this situation is not how it should be. This is not okay that so many people are struggling to find their other half. But unfortunately, the reality is that many people find it very, very hard to find their other half. Now comes another problem. Once they already find it, him or her, then how do you maintain a good marriage? So, there are many different problems. There's a lot more to talk about, but tonight we want to concentrate about one one uh one channel, one way how one can uh better their opportunities and focus on what they need to do. And you know, some of the lectures they come off very easy and very soft. And sometimes when you need to get something done, you need to be a little bit more

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