Rabbi Avi Landa discusses meaningful gestures in marriage and feeling seen and understood.
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Maybe you're getting close to getting engaged already. You want to get her like a small gift, something that shows that you're thinking about her. So, you place on the front seat of the car, two choices. One, a fancy bouquet of red roses. So, when she comes to the door, she opens it and sees these red roses. Wow, it's so sweet, amazing. Or, an ice-cold bottle of kiwi strawberry Snapple. Which one is better? The roses could cost, I don't know, $200 or something like that, depending on where you get them. But, if on the first date
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