Rabbi Binyamin Yuhanan - Parenting Foundations: Control vs. Education (Zoom)

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Binyamin Yuhanan’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] welcome good evening today we're continuing our classes on phenol or on continuing our classes on phenol or on parenting and today we're gonna have on one hand a fundamental class a very essential basic class but on the other hand is going to be an advanced class advanced because we're going to be speaking a little bit about fear theory behind parenting not only we're going to provide examples but also why do we behave in a certain way towards our children and hopefully we will children and hopefully we will understand by the end of the class what's the whole goal of parenting or education in general and we will learn about two ways of parenting one is control and one is the actual education which is called in Hebrew he knew so let's begin there's a passion and one of let's begin there's a passion and one of the previous classes I said a story about one of my rabbis who was unable to pray in a regular synagogue as much as he tried for his entire adult life he could only concentrate in prayer when he was among Bali to Shabbat those people who grew up not religious and they chose to be religious and he explained it that when he was a child his parents used to when he was a child his parents used to emphasize prayer they said prayer is very important and therefore they took him to the synagogue and they stood over him especially his father and he said turn to this page pray stand up and amen why are you not following why not paying attention why not shaking and enough and it created such revulsion towards prayer

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1. 0:02[Music] welcome good evening today we're continuing our classes on phenol or on…
2. 6:17darker you should educate your child your youngster according to his path and we're gonna see…
3. 12:31likes what are things that he tries to avoid this is what is referred by some…
4. 18:44knew which we're gonna call in English education what's the difference between control and education so…
5. 25:01very very unfortunately common common occurrence the statement goes like this for the first half of…
6. 31:20started doing it just like when the child makes his first steps parents celebrate and what…
7. 37:35said my dear daughter I have a candy for you and he gave her candy and…
8. 43:47abandon that path why because he will remember your excitement your pleasure when he perform its…
9. 50:15you see that poor man give him a coin and as soon as he gives the…
10. 56:34again he leaves happy and slowly but surely he enjoys it he does more and more…

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