Married to a Sensitive Soul? What Your Spouse Needs You to Understand

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shais Taub’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

So I I know you speak a lot about sensitive souls and I [clears throat] >> I do like identify as one. >> Mhm. >> And I'm wondering like in a marriage when one person is a sensitive soul everything is felt on a much deeper level and the other is not like how do you navigate that? >> It's tough you know. So, this whole sensitive soul thing, just for the people who are not caught up on it, it's something that I've been talking about for maybe a couple years now, and it's hard to sum it up. There are other terms you might be familiar with that are similar, but I don't like to use those terms for various reasons. But basically, we're talking about people who kind of feel everything kind of deeply and often just feel that life itself is rather intense and therefore need a lot of downtime, processing time, that kind of stuff. Maybe it shows up in sensory issues or like deep emotions or perfectionism or, you know, a very vivid imagination or the need to escape, you know, feelings of wanting to numb or distract oneself from reality because it's too intense. And any that's the profile. Um, and one of the things is that human interaction can become really hard. uh not because we don't like people but just because it's overwhelming to interact with them. And obviously in a marriage, >> you know, marriages generally entail two

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1. 0:00So I I know you speak a lot about sensitive souls and I [clears throat] >>…
2. 1:02imagination or the need to escape, you know, feelings of wanting to numb or distract oneself…
3. 2:06people who speak very different languages as far as what they consider to be pleasant human…
4. 3:08neighbor's issue. So I I hesitate. >> We're both listening to it now. >> Oh, perfect.…
5. 4:09near a cat. And then when we got to Soulward's house near the aisle, I saw…
6. 5:11even though you mean to help them, you can't tell them that. They can't they don't…
7. 6:14everything in. And because of that intensity, this is what it seems like to me at…
8. 7:15I I I I put you in like a a guest house in the backyard of…
9. 8:15don't even like just to get you to like them. Cats will not put up with…
10. 9:16rules that are understood are people want to come. See, if somebody came over to you…

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