Do You Also Dislike Purim? An Honest Conversation About the Real and Fake Purim

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi YY Jacobson’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

what we tell them before purim, I don't think it's going to make a big difference. It's about a relationship that we have and we cultivate throughout the entire year. And then at moments like purim, we can cash in in a very beautiful way on that relationship because there's trust. If my teenagers have an agenda and that is whatever my father says, whatever my mother says is is weird and strange and they're just an embarrassment in front of my friends. So we have to acknowledge that reality and we have to heal the rifts and we have to create a new type of paradigm in our connection. There's a lack of trust. The most priceless gift we can give our teenage children is that there is trust between us that they feel that they could be open with us, authentic with us because there is emotional connection, emotional attachment. Purim is no difference. Just sitting down my teenage girl, my teenage daughter or teenage son and giving them a a long muser speech about what they're allowed or not allowed to do on Purim. Maybe if you if it'll be effective amazing. But very often it won't be effective. So what I want to ask number one is from all the parents is ask yourself how deep is your

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1. 0:31what we tell them before purim, I don't think it's going to make a big difference.…
2. 4:37holiday of Purim by not knowing the difference of H and Mai if If if Hmon…
3. 8:42the drinking becomes a substitute for the essence, it's a tragedy. It's foolish. It's usually negative…
4. 13:23very straightforward. We can be real, at least with most of them. We can be vulnerable.…
5. 17:26collect. I'm not comfortable with it and feel like it's taking advantage. What are your thoughts…
6. 22:33could raise any issue and any question. And yeah, listen, we're all in the same boat…
7. 26:39That does not take anxiety or pressure. Everything else is icing on the cake. You have…
8. 30:48why now we are being invited by the creator to work through our emotions, to get…
9. 35:26I'm a big boy. I'm a father. I'm a mother. Show them. I need to show…
10. 39:31tool, it can be used in amazingly beautiful ways, destructive ways. I'm just going to say…

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