Friday Q&A: Being Bigger; Rising Above It

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The opening of this shiur, in Charlie Harary’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

everybody hope everybody's well [Music] happy friday for those that are here live for those that are joining me at any time thanks so much for doing that thank you for those that are emailing in we've been talking a lot about this concept of staying empowered and today's q a friday q a friday so i want to take some of your questions and see if i can we can we can get to them together i think it's important people ask questions because it gives us a nuance to things that may be unclear or just sort of how one applies something i'm gonna email i got a question from richard um thank you so much for your kind words you described the best way to deal with situation that you perceive there is a problem is to ignore signals you receive and address the matter only if someone else raises it with you right there's a jewish concept called being me vater which will with that aligns with that i'll explain what that means maybe next week however it's very possible that waiting for the party to express themselves could be too late to repair potential damage the person may only express themselves if things get so bad that they explode this would make it very hard to patch things up restore the relationship create an even bigger problem that could have been avoided if you were just proactive in addressing problems that you are sensitive to why wait to reach an irreparable point what an awesome question richard i think i got this in like seven different versions for those that are

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2. 2:08and then will i later when they finally say it when they can bring themselves to…
3. 4:39comes i think in large part because we don't have a relationship in which we can…
4. 6:43what i'm saying is you're not trying to guess what's in their head what happens is…
5. 9:16that's not freedom that's just being selfish but you are free to stay positive and i…
6. 12:18you're like i'm not thinking anymore like i'm out what's suggesting that i am suggesting that…
7. 14:20and dad left money and like the family like that's it they took sides and then…
8. 16:55and the guy just like makes a beeline away from stanley like he doesn't want to…
9. 19:03nonsense they're families that are lost in nonsense it's inconsequential and they're b their friends are…
10. 21:41their light on people they just shine they shine they're not they're not they're not heavy…

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