The Lost Art of Living: Our Key to Success in Life - Rabbi Efraim Stauber

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[Music] okay in this segment I want to deal with a question because you could wonder if this is so intuitive and someone seek them and so natural like yeah we avoid pain and we're attracted to pleasure so why do we have to make open deal about it why are we getting so conscious about it why doesn't it happen automatically I've arrows disappoint us mitzvahs you know satisfy us so what's the big deal why is it happening by itself and there's a number of ranches but I think a very very powerful answer that's something that we need to focus on in our generation I want to draw your attention to the work of Bernie Brown very very famous psychologist she's got TED Talks and she has books brené Brown very very worthwhile learning what she has to teach and just to try to kill it by saying very very quick like her basic basic ideas is that we are a generation of people who are afraid to live life in the sense of relationships if you want to connect to someone have an intimate real meaningful relationship so that's going to demand a certain degree of vulnerability taking down your fences your defenses and bring real and that's scary because you know we feel like we're not good enough we're not worthy of being loved and all of our insecurities surface so it's much easier to put up a little wall let's see I'm good mm-hmm yeah how you doing I'm fine you know so not to have such deep relation just because it's scary we're relation we are a generation of people who are fantastic at distracting

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1. 0:00[Music] okay in this segment I want to deal with a question because you could wonder…
2. 0:33there's a number of ranches but I think a very very powerful answer that's something that…
3. 1:06someone have an intimate real meaningful relationship so that's going to demand a certain degree of…
4. 1:38ourselves our personal lives and our relationships can cause us pain but we don't want to…
5. 2:13authentic are we able to feel our own lives and interactions relations with people when you…
6. 2:44tomorrow's another day sit with it learn how to be mindful learned how to be present…
7. 3:16we can't focus for more than a second and especially on painful things so when we…
8. 3:48understanding theory philosophy does not create change but all exist in the conscious mind you're actually…
9. 4:18learn how to sit with pleasure with satisfaction because even though you understand this you may…

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