(141) when they do things that we do not approve of

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] okay so the question is when the kid is doing something that we don't approve of what are we supposed to do how can we just let them do things that we don't approve of and this is whether it's uh sin sin we don't approve of sin right kill shabbos not dressing snails eating all kinds of bad stuff and um and or or dangerous things or drugs right all of everybody here you're not here because your kids are doing really really well in school um you're here because we have a problem now here's the situation um that that we have okay the situation is that you look back and you realize that for a long time whenever you said the word of god or the word of the law the word of normal the word of what's proper right it never worked now the muscle that i use for our kips kids who are traumatized and specifically in crisis is the example of black ice if you're driving rahman al-islam no one should have such a thing you're driving in the highway and all of a sudden you hit a patch of black ice and if you're going to go ahead let's see there's a truck in front of you and you're losing control of the car instinctively the first thing you want to do is hit that brake okay let's do it in slow motion you're going to hit the brake but your wife says hang on i think i heard something about this she googles what do you do if you hit black ice the first thing it says is do not hit the break why because you're going to spin

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1. 0:00[Music] okay so the question is when the kid is doing something that we don't approve…
2. 1:34the worst thing you you you increase your chances of death and and killing other people…
3. 3:09right can you imagine going over to tatsala guy and you're on a telecoil and i…
4. 5:18are really sure of themselves every people are like i'm so sure you know we look…
5. 6:49they're not even dressed even a guy doesn't dress like that because they're out i'm done…
6. 8:54heal the nephesh of the child and you can do that tati and mommy more than…
7. 10:26start to fix your child you're not going to win this battle but i want you…
8. 11:58pipe the self-esteem and compliment it profusely and don't let anything make her think or make…
9. 14:05she knows for her brothers and sisters and if one of her sisters would go out…
10. 15:37sounds very twisted the khazanish basically said the same thing a father we all know this…

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