Parshas Matos-Masei: Say It. Mean It. Live It. | The Power of Nedarim (bli neder)

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dov Ber Weisman’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Each, each, a man. Each, a man. You a man. You a man. Each, ki yi dor neder la shem o hishava shavua. La sor isar al nafshay lo yakhel devaro kakhol asher yetze mipiv ya'aseh. A man who takes a an oath, a neder, a vow. who takes a an oath, a neder, a vow. Or a vow. [snorts] He takes a vow or a neder to forbid something to himself. You can say, "I'm forbidding myself from going on social media after 9:00 p.m." I forbid myself. I'm taking an oath. I'm not really, I'm just giving you an example. Taking an oath to forbid myself to go on social media after 9:00 p.m., that becomes Torah law, like pig. that becomes Torah law, like pig. If you did that, you basically did you ate pig, which is an amazing idea. Shows you the power of your speech. Your speech is very, very, very powerful. >> What's it called again? >> A neder. A neder is this week's parsha, Matos. Neder. So, you can make things forbidden to yourself. >> Neder or shavua? >> Yes. And then it has the power it's a Torah thing that you can do this. And but then it says, says, "Do not profane your words." You You said something. You do what you said. Everything that comes out of your mouth you should do. Now, it's teaching us one very important thing. Each, a man. What does it mean [clears throat] to be a man? Do what you say. If you're going to say something, do it. Do what you say. Very, very important. People just throw with that out there all the time. I'll do this, I'll do this. People can't rely on you. People can't You can't rely on yourself. Stand up Your word is very important.

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1. 0:00Each, each, a man. Each, a man. You a man. You a man. Each, ki yi…
2. 3:05Forbidden, negative, neutral, positive, and mitzvah. Speech is very, very important. But what's really going on?…
3. 6:39Light, passion, goodness, fixing. I'm here to fix the world. So, you got to fix yourself…
4. 10:15table and everyone's crying and it's still so good that we have a house and we…
5. 13:18freezer. But for some reason she couldn't have she didn't want it. It was very sugary…
6. 16:54613 things say you can't waste time, but yes, we believe it's one of the most…
7. 20:29It's not like, "Well, if she's really nice and she has these values and she's very…
8. 23:34Well, I don't feel guilty. Don't beat yourself up. I'm just saying, at some point, don't…
9. 27:12you get an extra siyata d'Shmaya. Once you take a neder and say I'm not going…
10. 30:48stop me, sometimes I say, "Well, I don't want to let Hashem down." So, just very,…

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