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The Dark Truth About TOXIC FAMILY Dynamics

3.9K views · Jul 8, 2026

Rabbi Shais Taub

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  1. 0:00What are some practical ways to deal with enmeshed family dynamics? >> Um >> And then…
  2. 1:02guilt attached to it, and it becomes this sort of shame and blame game. Yeah, that's…
  3. 2:04Like from any human being it's toxic. Marriages that are based on this or one person…
  4. 3:36saying what's a cure for a headache? Well, cyanide, right? Cuz if you take cyanide you'll…
  5. 4:38I'm not able to do that. Well, if you would put your whole life on hold,…
  6. 6:08Always healthier to have a relationship with a parent if possible. So here's the thing. I'm…
  7. 7:09I've made it clear on what I I can and can't do and what what's important…
  8. 8:12and you're not locking the door on the relationship. You're saying, "I'm ready and willing to…
  9. 9:42that you exist. So, here's the thing. Their relationships all get poisoned because they're trying to…
  10. 10:44barter here. It's not We're not It's not tit-for-tat. We're not trying to It's not a…

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