How Often can a Husband Go Out with His Friends? - Rabbi Akiva Rutenberg

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how often should a guy have a guys night out with his buddies I don't think there's a formula that every every person every family every couples should keep to the same formula but I do think it's healthy both for the husband and for the wife to at times go out with their friends and appropriate settings one of the most important things in Shalom bayit and in parenting is self-care taking care of yourself and unfortunately in our very hectic lifestyles sometimes we neglect ourselves and if we neglect ourselves we end up not being the kind of spouse that we want to be or should be and not the parent that we want to be or should be it should be and I've seen many situations like this sometimes it comes with the best of intentions I see I see this with with mothers I see it with with fathers with husbands who think that I'm it's not I shouldn't go out I shouldn't take care of myself I shouldn't go to a gym let's say go to whatever it is that's going to be to take care of themselves and I think that this is a very very big mistake and ultimately you pay the price for this later on when your fuse is short because you haven't taken care of yourself etc however too much of going out and doing your own thing is also problematic and

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1. 0:06how often should a guy have a guys night out with his buddies I don't think…
2. 0:38unfortunately in our very hectic lifestyles sometimes we neglect ourselves and if we neglect ourselves we…
3. 1:11out I shouldn't take care of myself I shouldn't go to a gym let's say go…
4. 1:42can really create a lot of stress and tension in a relationship I was talking to…
5. 2:15it I think that when when a husband goes out it's our wife goes out it…
6. 2:46you don't want to do that there are times when you need to stand your ground…
7. 3:17care of your own relationship I can't say how many times I see couples who think…
8. 3:48normal like my wife wants me to go out the guys once a week so I'm…
9. 4:18normal she doesn't want you to stay home all the time but she doesn't want to…
10. 4:48she's gonna want to stay home and roll her eyes when you do go out you…

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