Is There Room to Be a Strong, Outspoken Jewish Woman?

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Hi, this is David Olowski with our question and answer series. Anonymous asks, "I'm getting mixed messages about what femininity means for a Jewish woman. Are we supposed to always be quiet and gentle? Is there room to still be a Jewish woman who is more strong and outspoken?" Wow, what a tough question. I refer you to my podcast which happens to be one of my most popular ones on the big lie at Sneas wherein this is the lie they say uh a woman should be attractive but not attracting and I say the problem is both of those words have the word attract in it. No, you're not supposed to be attracting or attractive. You're supposed to not have people looking at you. It is not a mile. We are not uh women are not supposed to be bandandying about. Now to be fair, Sneas applies to men too. It may take on different forms. It's it's unfortunate that sne is only defined by clothing. It's not. It's defined by an attitude towards life. And so therefore, the loud and uh obnoxious, what can I tell you? The scene that I see here in Eritell where there are seminary girls on the bus, you know, with a big bottle of water, drinking straight from the bottle going, "Shnie, Shnie, I'm over here. Shnie, you know." Yeah, I don't think I don't think that's

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1. 0:00Hi, this is David Olowski with our question and answer series. Anonymous asks, "I'm getting mixed…
2. 0:32uh a woman should be attractive but not attracting and I say the problem is both…
3. 1:03that sne is only defined by clothing. It's not. It's defined by an attitude towards life.…
4. 1:33appropriate behavior for Bas is full disclosure, I don't think it's appropriate for Ben Torra either.…
5. 2:04uh she used to talk to the girls and she was bubbly and effervescent [clears throat]…
6. 2:34so. Uh I don't understand this. I've spoken about this in the past. Um there are…
7. 3:05little secret. Men and boys will stare at your picture. It may lead to fantasy. It…
8. 3:35where I'm helping people and doing good things etc. you know working in women's camps, women's…
9. 4:07have to try to achieve. I hope this is helpful. This is David Olowski with our…

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